Is it wrong for me to keep my step-son from his inconsistent bio mom?

Needing some advice my bonus son is 4 his dad and I have full physical and legal custody as of March of 2019 his bio mom is to have him every other weekend and every Wednesday she has seen him 4 times since the order was put in place in March and only asks for him when it’s convenient for her. Since he started school, his dad told his bio mom that she either needs to be consistent with seeing him or not see him at all because the one and only time she has taken him since school started both his councilor and teacher said he wasn’t the same kid and something wasn’t right. Also, her time is to be supervised, and she doesn’t listen to that order. My question is are we wrong for keeping him from her because she isn’t consistent and can’t follow what the judge ordered

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Yes and no, you need to go back before the judge.

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Follow the court order. Little contact is better then none. Per Dr. Phil

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If his teacher and counselor noticed something was off with him, that should be a huge red flag. I would get super strict on her time being supervised. :eyes: If she cant follow the rules then I don’t see why she should be able to see him.

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This is your husbands place- not yours

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Go ask the judge to remove her rights, ask the teacher to write a letter

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Take the situation back to court and they will decide what should be done. Bring up that she isn’t following orders

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Take it back to court

Court order should always be followed. Even thought your head and heart is accurate in a courts view you could look insubordinate & that would only hurt you and his dad in a court of law. Some day maybe she will sign off rights if you have enough court backing… but don’t buck the court in the mean time to risk it down the road.

Yes. Hes not yours. Bottom line.

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You need to follow paper work no matter what until you have it changed. The court order will always win no matter the inconsistency.

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If it’s to be supervised go to court with your proof.

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No, you’re not wrong.

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Your in violation of a court order if you don’t let her have her time and that can put you and hubby in an even worse situation. Although I would take her back to court and bring it all up.

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You need to let the judge decide. Unfortunately, you have no ground to stand on here. You don’t know if the reason he is “different” is because he misses his mom

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He’s not your son. Let the court decide.

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Even though he is not hers biologically, she is there for him every morning, every night, every smile, every heart break to help him put the pieces back together from his mom. She is there, not his mom by choice obviously if she isn’t even consistent enough every other weekend and one day a will. Step moms matter too!

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Take her to court. Get a statement from his teacher & counselor. If u don’t follow court orders then u could get into trouble.

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Follow the Court order to a T… until it is changed by a judge. Make sure your end is 100 percent by the book.

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Take her back to court and let them know she’s not trying, i agree with you on keeping him away, it’s not healthy for him to have a pop in and out parent

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