I have a question. I don’t want anyone to think I’m selfish, though. I have two kids, and my sister has one. Every year she expects everyone to go to her daughter’s party participate in her parties that she throws for whatever reason and gets upset if you don’t. My wedding is a month away, and she can’t answer anyone or me about going and refused to RSVP, so I’m assuming she isn’t coming, but she expects me to show up to her events. And for my kid’s parties, she only goes so she can have a center of attention for her and her child ( I love my niece to death so please don’t think that I don’t), and everyone ignores my kids about everything. So is it rude if I don’t go to the events she makes for her and her child if she doesn’t come to any of mine or my children’s unless it’s for her attention? I have been dealing with this for years, and I just feel like if she can’t come to celebrate my happiness and my children’s happiness without it benefitting her, then why go to hers. I have always been an outcast with that side of the family. My bio father isn’t coming to the wedding bc he said some pretty rude things about me and my father. I just don’t want to keep up with the family drama if that makes sense.
Cut toxic people out.
Dont punish the child because her mothers actions.
I would just go for your children. And the free food hopefully. You don’t have to go out of your way to talk to her.
Do what makes life easier and healthier for you and you child.
You don’t need that i definitely wouldn’t go out my way if you don’t get same in return it’s one sided if she can’t take time out for you I’d definitely wouldn’t for sure cause it should go both ways you don’t have to put up with that
I simply would just cut ties with her
I’d go for the sake of the kids. But wouldn’t blame you if you decided to cut ties. I honestly should cut ties w the ppl I have like this in my life. Probably would make things easier personally, but I don’t want to let my own issues affect my kids. Now if and when they grow up and see the lack of effort/lack of connections and don’t want to see ppl i will respect their wishes.
Nope i give exact what i recieve.
I will say this no its not rude but don’t make your niece suffer because your sister had a ego issue maybe to balance out you can pick her up ( your niece) and do something to avoid most of the drama
Cut ties. You would be amazed how much better you feel getting rid of toxic people. Ask yourself would you put up with the same thing from your friends?
Have a family member take your kids so they can celebrate with thier cousins sent a nice gift and stay home .
I can understand your irritation with this situation. However why lower yourself to her selfish level. You attend family things for your family. If she doesn’t that’s on her. If you don’t want to go because of something legit then ok. However saying I’m not going to that because she won’t come to this. Doesn’t teach your child very good tolerance or empathy. I would ask the kids if they want to go. And do what makes them happy. If they get to decide (your kids not hers ) then you can ignore the bs so to speak because your there for your kids not her. Hugs. Your better than that. As for your bio don’t connect them together. Everyone has their reasons. And misunderstandings and hurt feelings ruin the world. And now adays its precious and fleeting. Take what you can. Hugs. Your a great mom you don’t deserve to feel petty over it.
Girl I feel this! My brother can be a freaking narcissist and we have an up and down relationship because he can be so much drama and is toxic to be around sometimes. So I have to cut him off and distance myself from him to do whats best for me and mine. I just take a mental break basically, he is human so i do forgive him but I won’t put up with his behavior. I still do stuff for my niece because I love her so much and don’t want that stupid bs affecting our relationship. So maybe just tough it out for stuff going on for your niece, but if it’s for your sister then don’t feel obligated to do shit!
You teach people how to treat you. (I should take my own advice). I wouldn’t go, unless it was for her daughter and being the kids. I think it’s most important for the kids. Other then that, no. I don’t do drama. I don’t keep count. I don’t play games. If I were you, I wouldn’t go.
I think its reasonable. You get out what you put in to any relationship. If she can’t put in the effort why should you?
I think it’s okay not to go to them. When she goes off on you, tell her exactly how you feel and that it’s not right to steal the spotlight from your kids during their events. She needs to be put in her place. Don’t let her walk all over you and your kids.
You should have to put up with that it’s a two way street if she can’t respect you enough to do the same than why should you period I wouldn’t go
If their toxic ways don’t meet you needs don’t give them your time n inner peace
Skip whatever u wanna skip dear…just care bout ur kids and urself