Is it wrong of me to block my fiances mom on everything?

Is it wrong of me to block my fiance’s mom on everything? I moved from across the country and left all my friends and family behind to be here with him, our 7month old, and his 5yr old son. Ever since he and I have been together, she’s done nothing but try to find things wrong with me. At first, when I got here, she was nice to me. Then she started making comments about my weight. I have hypothyroidism (Hashimoto’s thyroiditis), so it’s really difficult for me to lose weight. She’s a personal trainer and was a bodybuilder at one point, so she’s super into fitness. She’s made my self-esteem significantly lower than it was before. It’s to the point where my fiance and I can’t even go out without me worrying that he’s going to look at other women and want them instead of me. I’ve NEVER been this way. I also have depression and anxiety. Her comments have made me not want to go out and do anything. She always invites us out to eat, and I’m embarrassed to eat in front of her. She brings us tons of junk food anytime she comes to see his 5yr old. I’ve wanted to diet and try to get some weight off for years now, but I feel like even if I try to and do lose this weight, she’ll still make comment,s and make me feel like it’s not enough. All I want is to be accepted into her family. On top of her pointing out my weight issues, she messages me almost daily, telling me I’m a horrible mom for not working and staying home with our baby. Our little girl is seven months old and was two months early. I clean all day and cook dinner for all of us on top of picking up and dropping off my fiance’s son at school. According to her, it’s not enough because I don’t go for walks or go to the gym. Along with this, she freaks out anytime her son and I get into disagreements when we have his son. I feel like I can’t voice how I feel to him without his 5yr old running to her and telling her everything that goes on with us. I’m at a loss with it all and am so depressed. Any tips for weight loss with hypothyroidism would be great, and any tips regarding my fiance’s mom would be appreciated as well. I don’t want to give up on my little family and would love to start feeling better about myself. I love my fiance and his 5 yr old more than anything and our little girl too. Thank you all!

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No. I block toxic people daily.

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Man I didn’t get past “it’s difficult for me to lose weight”. If she’s saying anything about your weight. Yep block her. Buh-byeeeeeee.

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  1. If blocking her will help ur mental health then do it. Make sure u have a serious talk with ur fiance about the issues also so he is aware of why ur doing it. 2. I have the same thyroid problem and have done a low carb diet since january and have lost 22lbs now. Basically no bread,pasta, rice, potatoes, beans, corn etc if u would like to send me a pm i can give you recipes and tips.
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You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If someone is toxic or ignorant to you, that’s it. Just because she’s your partner’s mother doesn’t mean shes entitled to your time or given a free pass to be a cunt. Period.

Nope my block list is over 200 and growing all the time

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My husband would lose his shit if his mother ever said anything negative to me or about me!
This woman needs to be put in her place!
He’ll have one last chance to do so or I would do it my damn self.
Nobody gonna make me feel like less than fucken awesome.
U block her on everything, delete her number and let her know that until she grows up she is no longer allowed in my or my children’s presence.

Never discuss relationship issues in front of a child ever. It is not healthy for the child.
2. Take the mother aside away from yalls son. And tell her to stop her shit. Her opinion is not wanted nor needed. If she cant treat you with civil respect. She will be blocked from all communication. That this is your yalls family and the two adults in this relationship. Will decide what is best and works for yalls family.

Block her but also your Fiance needs to deal with his mother and let her know her behavior is unacceptable.

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  1. She’s a bitch. Block her.
  2. Your fiancée needs to have your back or you need to block his ass too.

I’ve blocked my boyfriends mother because she pushed for me to get an abortion. I blocked her because she is a manipulator. I could give you a hundred reasons why I blocked her.

Do what feels good to you. Don’t invite harm, mental or physical into your life. If she wanted to be apart of the family she would try like you have, until she decides to put in the effort, don’t bother with her.

I’ve blocked my boyfriends mother because she pushed for me to get an abortion. I blocked her because she is a manipulator. I could give you a hundred reasons why I blocked her.

Do what feels good to you. Don’t invite harm, mental or physical into your life. If she wanted to be apart of the family she would try like you have, until she decides to put in the effort, don’t bother with her.

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  1. Block her solely for the reason of demeaning your parenting. 2. The Keto lifestyle was amazing for me and I have the same diagnosis as you. 3. Take what she says freely. Maybe walking or the park would not only make others happy (that’s we dont care about besides the kiddos) but it could help you with your endorphins and everything. 4. You have to be careful that adult disagreements and discussions dont take place in front of his son so there’s nothing for him to run and tell grandma.

I’ve learned to listened to criticism and evaluate it for MYSELF. Hmmm never hurts to try. Sure dont want to prove the B right but damn I wanna be my best me.

Block her on everything, even her phone number. Tell her how you feel and if need be stop hanging around her. It’s okay to cut toxic/negative people out of your life and it doesn’t matter who it is. Then talk to your fiancé about maybe talking to his son so he doesn’t run and tell her all your business.

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Sounds like you need to go to some therapy. Another person can’t make you feel bad about yourself, if you truly love yourself.

Also, the being insecure about your partner, him looking at other people, is unhealthy, you have to be able to trust the person you’re with.

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You sound like the problem, like you’re looking for a problem. She’s a personal trainer, it’s literally her job to talk about weight and fitness. She’s not the reason you’re insecure in your relationship, that’s on you. And then blaming a 5 year old for just speaking on what he/she hears and sees? Maybe you shouldn’t talk shit about the child’s grandparent right in front of them :roll_eyes: get a grip girl because you’re way too soft for this harsh world.

Look up the AIP diet. It’s healthy and I lost 30 pounds in three months. It will help with ur thyroid too!

No I have been with my husband 12 years and I block all his family.

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I blocked my MIL a while ago. Mostly political stuff but she makes it a habit to tell me that the mother of my sons first son ( they were teenagers) is his " true love" and that " they’re too dumb to realize it now, but they’ll see they’re meant for eachother." Constantly. And I finally go sick of it.
I dont even drive over to see her anymore I let my husband take our son and call it that.

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First let your fiance know so she doesnt try to change it up and then go on blocking and being haply

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