Is It Wrong to Take a Child to a Bar for a Birthday Party? My Husband and I Disagree!

QUESTION:

"Is it trashy to bring your child to a bar for a birthday party? My husband was upset. I said no to going to his niece’s birthday party because I think it’s wrong to take your baby to a bar.

I am breastfeeding, and I don’t have a pump because my kids broke the one I had, and I think it’s unwise to spend 75 dollars on something you’d use once. Suddenly it’s I don’t like his family. Like really, I say no to one thing here or there but tell my parents no all the time but I’m the bad guy…

Anyway, I told him last night it was wrong to bring a kid into a bar, and he said no, it’s not, and my opinion is wrong. So I’m wondering who agrees with me or if maybe my opinion is wrong, but I think it’s trashy to bring children to a bar.

And to clarify, I do not say no to his sisters all the time. I freaking spent all summer last summer helping them move, paint and remodel their house…and helped his sister with every damn raffle, so saying no occasionally should be allowed, especially when its an event at a bar."

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“I think it’s more of the fact that you called it ‘trashy.’ Just because you don’t agree with it, does not mean you had to use such a rude word to describe it. You could have simply said you didn’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in a bar and left it at that.”

“Yeah no babies don’t belong in a bar. My mom tried telling me that’s it’s fine and I said no it was way trashy and my kid don’t need to be around all that. Bars are loud and obnoxious.”

“It depends on the spot and if it’s reserved for the birthday party which I assume it is… I’ve attended a child’s birthday party at a bar and it was nice clean and kids running all over a whole different atmosphere than when people are partying drinking and a band’s playing. You may be being a little uptight.”

“Ugh. My dad would have raised us in a bar if he could have. I hated spending time there, being fed Shirley temples, and stale popcorn to cover up the wrong of it all. Please don’t take your baby to a bar.”

“Clearly it’s a kids birthday party with family, if you are so worried about pumping you can hand pump, they are not expensive or go for an hour and leave so the pumping isn’t an issue.”

“I don’t know you, honey, but if it does not feel right to you then don’t do it. Mother’s instincts come from God…so follow your heart. Personally, I never took my children to bars because it didn’t FEEL right to me… people need to be more understanding of your decision and hopefully get over it.”

“If it’s strictly a bar, then I wouldn’t. But if it was a bar and grill or restaurant with a bar then I might. However, with covid going on, I don’t take my son anywhere nor do I go out anywhere like that. Besides the point, you’re allowed to not take your children anywhere you don’t feel comfortable taking them and that’s ok, but I wouldn’t call it trashy just because you don’t agree.”

“I wouldn’t want to be in a bar while breastfeeding and taking care of a lil baby. So I wouldn’t go either.”

“I had my baby shower for daughter at a bar and her first birthday party, my family has their Christmas party at said bar as well; there is nothing wrong with it. It’s just a venue.”

“I guess it really depends… I’m in a small town… having kids in the bar isn’t a big deal during the day. they serve food. And if it’s a party at a bar for children then it’s more likely not an issue. However, if it’s at night or when the party crowd comes, or it’s a shady bar then I’d have a problem. But if you feel it’s wrong, then that’s your choice. He might not like or understand it.”

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Depends. There are a couple of bars near me that have a kids area where it’s more like a restaurant with a bar, pool table and pokies away from the kids area or areas that you sit.

I wouldn’t go a bar that doesn’t have a kids area or separate areas away from the bar and pokies.

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I think it’s more of the fact that you called it “trashy”. Just because you don’t agree with it, does not mean you had to use such a rude word to describe it. You could have simply said you didn’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in a bar and left it at that.

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Why are you upset about a party in a bar? It may be that they don’t allow kids in - then you have a reason.

i would say if there’s other kids at a bday party it’s fine

Honestly if you’re not comfortable taking your baby to the bar its a valid reason. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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The only issue is if people smoke in the bar. If not then it’s fine but then again I’m used to attending kids parties that have more booze then kids so :woman_shrugging:

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You have a right to say no to anything you want to your an adult and are in no way required to do anything you don’t want to… But I was raised in a bar when I was younger my parents didn’t drink but where we lived the bikers did pig roasts and all types of stuff at their bar so we were always there no big deal however when they had party’s where everyone was drunk I wasn’t allowed there for obvious reasons… So I don’t see a problem with it as long as baby is safe and people are not plastered drunk but that’s just my opinion

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Is it a bar and grill or just a bar? We have a place that’s a restaurant during the week but on the weekends it’s just a bar no food. We take our kids there during the week

I wouldn’t take my baby out anywhere to begin with lol

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We had my grandfathers retirement party at a bar. I brought my then 1 year old and my newborn with me. All of my family brought their kids. I would be fairly offended if you called something trash to but I guess to each their own

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Babies and kids aren’t allowed in bars at least not in CA

If you dont feel comfortable your husband should respect you and support your decision and choice

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Then stay home but don’t be getting mad because he doesn’t come home at a certain time.

I think it also depends on the time of day. My cousin had a baby shower at one.

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Apparently she said she is breastfeeding so a bar where it is very loud you have a a very good reason I agerr with you

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Most bars are family oriented until about 9pm. Why is that trashy?
Also we have been takimg my son to sports bars since he was 1, during the day. (Buffalo wild wings).
Seems as though you’re just making excuses to not be around his family.

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If it’s strictly a bar, then I wouldn’t. But if it was a bar and grill or restaurant with a bar then I might. However, with covid going on, I don’t take my son anywhere nor do I go out to anywhere like that.

Besides the point, you’re allowed to not take your children anywhere you don’t feel comfortable taking them and that’s ok, but I wouldn’t call it trashy just because you don’t agree.

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I don’t see the issue we brought our son to a Christmas party that was at a bar he slept most of it. Definitely was before all this Covid stuff.

I would never bring my kids in a bar who has a birthday party for children in a bar in sorry but that is trashy and completely unacceptable

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