Is there anything I can do about my ex claiming our kids stimulus money?

Hey ladies, I’m just wondering if anyone has been or is going through the same thing, any advice and tips are welcome! My kids dad and I are legally still married and we separated around June 20 of last year. That we were together about 5 1/2 months of the year. I was a stay at home mom. Since we have separated I have had the kids full time, he got them every other weekend for a little while, and now I have them 100% of the time and he also pays no support. At one point, he was ordered to pay support, and he is still behind on that, but later on, child support was dropped. Child support was always direct pay; it was never through child support enforcement. I was just giving you a little backstory on everything. The issue is the claimed our children on his 2021 taxes, he claimed their stimulus checks on his taxes, and since he already filed for 2021, I know the very last $1400 each stimulus was sent to him as well; my question is does that belong to me since I had the kids?! Is there anything I could do legally about it? Thanks for any advice, mommas!

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Your best bet would be asking a judge. He may have to split the stimulus. Taxes you need to discuss in your divorce decree. Some parents switch years. Some mom claims every year. You need it in writing.

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Unfortunately, being married legally still… he has a right to claim the kids. This is something that needs to go through court with the divorce. A judge may be nice and award him to pay you half, but to cover yourself with all of the advanced credits coming up you may want to take action asap.

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If you are not employed and still married you will have a very hard time fighting this. Do you have a legal separation from the judge? These tax issues would have been spelled out in that document also. Until then you have to wait for a divorce decree to state who will claim the children and when. But if you’re unemployed then you wouldn’t be filing taxes. And it would makes sense for him to claim them. But he should be giving you some of that money. Even out of human decency he should be giving you money.

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You need to file for a divorce and request he amend his taxes where he claims you too and you split the money you get back. My ex has to do when we got divorced.

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Get a bulldog lawyer

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He might have to at least split it. Since he’s already gotten it and most likely spent it and you’re not divorced yet it can be thrown into the divorce but good luck actually seeing a dime. My ex sold our 2 vehicles before the divorce and he was ordered to pay me half of what they were blue booked but that was 6 years ago.

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Why was child support dropped? That makes no sense.

I’m going through the same thing. I have filed for child support and put in writing to the judge to stop him from claiming them. Still waiting on a court date since January. No one seems to be able to give me any answers. He is receiving money he shouldn’t have.Good luck trying to talk to anyone with the IRS I’ve tried several times and no luck.

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I hate to put it bluntly but you got screwed. Even in court they’re not going to order he give that to you. Try talking to him, maybe he will be willing to buy some stuff for the kids. You need to start child support, have it enforced. Go to court, get the divorce and custody at least started. As far as the stimulus $$, I think you’re outta luck.

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You mean he claimed them on his 2020 taxes. 2021 isn’t over yet. I’m not understanding why child support was dropped. Did you drop it? Or did custody, income change? I’d go back to court for custody. This time have it go through enforcement so his non-payment is documented. Ask at that time for the stimulus & tax child tax credit for 2020 & the monthly 1 that starts in July. Have those amounts tacked into his child support so it’s documented & enforced. Never accept child support directly from him. It becomes a he said she said. You’re easily screwed. (Example. My ex took a receipt for diapers, wipes, clothing & food to CSE. He claimed that was in place of child support. I got 1 box of diapers. None of the other things on his receipt. Luckily for me she said anything paid outside of courts were gifts & not considered child support. If we had direct pay it could’ve worked.)

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My ex is $19,000 behind in support but he claimed one of our children on his 2019 taxes so he got the first two stimulus for that child. Then judge ordered I get to claim both children until they age out, so since I claimed for 2020, I got the last stimulus. They won’t give me the first two because of how the children were claimed on the taxes. Also, my understanding is the first two could not be taken for child support or back support. But the third one could.

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By the time you take him back to court for actual court ordered child support it would likely just go into the backpay he owes. However he can request joint custody and not even have to pay child support at all if he gets his way in court. I hope you’re documenting everything because that helps tremendously in court versus he say/she say stuff!

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I had to go to court, it was split with me along with the custody and child support hearing

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When you file your taxes it will ask if you received the stimulus and they will include it in your refund.

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Get an attorney and file for divorce NOW. Fight for clearly outlined child support and visitation. It can also be put in your court documentation who gets to claim the kids.

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If they live with you, you need to take him to court. Get divorced and then in the divorce paperwork the judge will rule on your favor for child supports if the kids reside with you. There isn’t a judge out there that would not force him to pay support in that case. Go through child support enforcement to collect it as you will get screwed letting him pay directly plus if he owes child support they will take his income tax and give it to you. In the divorce you can also request you get to claim the kids on your income taxes. I did and it worked.

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For those saying he is entitled to half… How? Its FOR THE KIDS and where they have been! He ain’t financially helped nor spent time with them. How does he “get half” for being a deadbeat! If his amount is in there give him his but the rest should be hers :woman_shrugging:

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I’m still legally married but separated. We have a joint bank account in which the stimulus went to. I got my share and I left him his which was the 1400…I got my 1400 plus the kids… of you got a paper check then both of you all names should’ve been on there and he can’t cash it without you being present. But once the irs puts up the portal to change information such as direct deposit and such go and change your information.

This is something that will definitely require a lawyer, and the sooner the better. The bad part is it may cost you all the stimulus money just to get the lawyer. But the way I would look at it is I would rather the lawyer get that money than the ex. lol

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