I've asked my family numerous times not to post my kids online but they do: Advice?

Advice: I am a single mother of 3 children and a bipolar schizophrenic with PTSD (from trauma in my life from past relationships and from my own family members) I have become estranged from my siblings and their kids and significant others because of situations that put me in. My ‘brothers’ lied to try and have my kids put in foster care (for example). I have asked my mother repeatedly not to share my kids and my life with her other children, as they are not part of OUR family. I have asked repeatedly for her to not share pictures of my kids on her Facebook page. She doesn’t care about my mental health enough to even research what a bipolar schizophrenic is. Doesn’t care about any of my requests as their mother. Argues nonstop about my wishes both for myself and my kids. I get flashbacks, not in a good way, when she just mentions their name to me.

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You should seek some serious professional help before you make any major decisions.

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Stop sending them photos and if they taking them offline then make your page private and photos private as well. If they can’t respect your wishes then they shouldn’t b in your life. Just my Opinion

If your mother argues with you nonstop and doesn’t care about your mental health, then why do you expose your children to her?

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I think you need help

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Leave ur mother be as well if she is not doing right by u period

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You definitely need help, before something serious happens. You need support

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First and foremost you need to go get counseling. Second, if your mother treats you this way then don’t have her around your children. It’s obviously not healthy for them. But like I said, first step is to get some real and serious help for yourself.

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Cutting family out of your life is acceptable especially if it hinders your mental health… Stop sending or giving your mother any information/pictures that would cause you distress… You health comes first…

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Are you on meds? My mother is a schizophrenic and made my life hell. The only time she was some what ok was when she was on meds. It is sad that your family isn’t supportive but I have to wonder why you are estranged from your family.

For starters quit giving her pictures if she isn’t going to respect your wishes. Secondly i had someone who use to do that to me and you can report them to Facebook for posting pictures of your children. I did and Facebook removed the pictures. If she’s getting the pics from your Facebook change your privacy settings. There are ways to stop her. Don’t let the fact that she’s your mom deter you cause a mom is supposed to respect her grown children’s wishes not disrespect you tbe way she is.

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You really really need to find a good psychiatrist and find help for your issues before you pass them on to your own children. And as far as your mother goes … strict rules for being around them if not abided by then no contact but if hurts the kids more than helps them then that’s not good either. But if you dont get the help you need and are diagnosed you could be putting you and your children in danger especially being schizophrenic. I’ve seen it happen in my own family.

Are you friends with her or other family members/mutual friends on Facebook?! If so, block them all. (Or at least block the ones who share the pictures) Secondly, report any pictures she has shared to FB and tell them she does not have permission to share them. Lastly, how is she obtaining pictures?!? Is she taking them?! Best wishes to you momma. :heartpulse:

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It sounds like that you need a lot more help and your children do need to go to a safer place

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Well I applaud you. Everybody is telling you to get help, not realizing for you to admit you have schizophrenia means you already are getting help and most likely are on medication. Stop judging mom’s with mental health problems. It’s most of us. Almost every mother I know has at least anxiety, which is a mental health and emotional health problem. As for your question, you can block your mom from sharing pics of your children by making sure she can’t see them on your page. Also don’t let her take pics of them. Make sure you’re present if she sees your kids. If she keeps disrespecting your, it’s not wrong to cut toxic family members out of your life

A toxic family is just as bad if not worse than a toxic relationship
I finally stopped talking to most of my family in order to care for my mental health…
It sucks but lifes more peaceful

First- here is a hug!! Second- gosh,just let all that be…Why worry about stuff you can NOT control…I know - “easier said than done.” Let your Mom be what ever she is…Take care of your kids and just go about YOUR day…Third- maybe counseling…Just for your peace of mind…Maybe include the kids…….Fourth- LOVE YOURSELF…We are here to help…keep talking and telling what is on your mind…Some day you will have some peace…Bless you and find that smile that you have…

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Block your mom. From Facebook AND your life.

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I would make a complaint to Facebook admin to have her Facebook banned. She did not receive your permission to post those pictures.

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Cut her off and gets some therapy

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