Just needing to rant about parenting

My third boy was like this, my other 2 weren’t like this at all. Hes 5 now and has diagnosed SPD (getting an evaluation for high-functioning autism), ADHD, and ODD. He was soooo difficult from day one, I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong and everyone kept telling me just ‘discipline him’ and ‘dont let him walk all over you’ which is so fuckin hurtful bc turns out he had neurological issues. Hes gotten better with age, medication, and therapy

My son is the same way. He literally screams and cries all day everyday from the time he gets up till he goes to bed. He doesn’t do it at daycare though. He is so well behaved for his daycare teacher, and I just don’t get it. I dont know what to do. He started it when he couldn’t talk very well and that was his way of communicating what he wanted, but he talks fine now and still does it. Im losing it.

Daddy is a douche bag, he should be helping with the discipline of his children
Maybe then you wouldn’t be so stressed out and you both could discipline more effectively
Just sayin…

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Maybe the problem is that you ask him for help, or him doing anything child or house related is helping you. No no no! You and your spouse have a partnership. Business partnerships would not survive if one partner was doing the lions share of the work for the same benefits and pay. When he does anything he isn’t " helping you" he is being a good partner. If he isn’t pulling his weight, you need to tell him so.

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I would take the children in to the doctor just to make sure it is not a medical problem.

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No violence. When she asked for milk and thru a fit for juice take milk away and walk away.

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All time out does is give them time to come up with the next thing they’re going to do. If they are bad it has to cost them something important to them. I was taking my son’s to the zoo and they were supposed to meet their friends but they kept fighting in the backseat. I told them to stop and I had told them twice but of course they didn’t. I pulled over on the side of the road and began reading a book. They asked what I was doing and I replied, reading of course. They both said, but we’ll be late, I replied, probably this is a very good book and I’m only on chapter 3. But MOM, I said, you fight, I read. That took care of that !

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If they are throwing a tantrum put them to there room for a time out or if out that them from that situation. This is what is working for my stroppy toddler

Following!! My oldest is two and I’m at my wits end

Wth! Ppl these days act like they scared of their kids. You got to show them you the boss not them. Spank their butts, Im not saying beat them but let them know you mean business. Don’t be scared

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Time to set ground rules and a schedule put them on a picture board so kids see them also start talking about feelings. And use timeouts. Please dont give in stick to what you say and reward the good behavior by using a sticker chart and at rhe end of the week if they can fill up the sticker chart thwy can choose something fun to do like movie night, or pizza night ect…

Sounds like a parenting problem. Take a class.

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Same. Same same…my almost two year old has VERY strong feelings the last month or so… Things have gotten thrown, broken and taken away or hidden. I am a constant jungle gym and my hair is her favorite toy. :flushed: We can do this. We can do this. It will pass. It will pass

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My very wise and very experienced mother told me, “Well, they weren’t like that when you got them.”. That thought got me through many rough moments over the years.

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When my oldest son went through the throwing stage anything he threw went on top of the refrigerator until the next morning. When my father-in-law would stop in to visit after work, he would always check the top of the fridge to gauge my mood for teasing. The “kid” is 45 now and still a drama type guy.

Kids are definitely hard to raise momma!! You got this! I won’t offer advice since you didn’t ask!

Sorry but if they had there little butts whipped once in awhile trust me they won’t be acting like that

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Just stay strong and it will pass, but if you start giving in, it will linger longer. 3 girls later I learned the hard way🤦‍♀️

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I’m currently going through the same thing with my one and only Daughter, who is 2 years and 7 months. Some days, I go to my bedroom and cry, it’s hard. I’ve realized though, when she gets her full 12 hour bedtime sleep, and her 2 hour afternoon nap, she’s not as rough. I feel you, sending you hugs Mama :heart:

Sounds normal.
All normal behaviour for their ages. They grow up. They do other annoying things when they are teens and even when they are adults.
Fasten your seatbelt.
Welcome to parenthood .
Aren’t you lucky that he cooks and fixes things.