So lately I’ve been feeling pretty insecure about a lot of stuff. I’ve gained some weight, and some other stuff has been going on. Anyways my boyfriend and I were talking, and we got on the subject of attractiveness, and I asked him who the most attractive woman he’s been with was. He’s a really honest guy, so he’s gonna say the truth no matter what. He told me one of his exes was the most attractive people he’s been with. That really hurt my feelings. I want to feel like I’m number one to him when it comes to everything. I know I’m really sensitive, and I’ve been working hard lately on loving myself and accepting me for me and everything that comes with me. And I mean I know he’s attracted to me also but him saying that just really hurt my feelings and I’m not sure how to take it.
Yea…my husband would have been sent to the couch for a week if he said that to me. I dont care if she was more attractive, you dont say it…hes an idiot, sorry to say.
Is he the most attractive man you’ve been with,?
Just love yourself you know he’s honest. This was a situation of don’t look for what you don’t want to find. Love yourself work out and that just for the body image but understand he’s with you cause he loves you.
Why would you ask such a stupid question if you know he’s going to be 100% honest? You set him up…
Well don’t ask a question you don’t want an honest answer to
She may have been objectively the most attractive but he chose you because all of your qualities = something better to him. *Also, You also asked knowing he’s a super honest person sooo you really can’t be too upset.
Don’t compare yourself to others its a theif of joy. Looks are only skin deep. Theres so much more to you and what you have to offer then just the way you look.
Men they’re ridiculous. Get out and walk. Do you! You’ll feel so much better just getting outside. Remember there is only one of you and your amazing
You are doing that to yourself. Don’t ask those questions when you are a sensitive person and have self esteem issues. Instead of being crying and feeling sorry for yourself, do stuff to make you feel better and more attractive, like going to the gym,or just love yourself as you are and stop comparing yourself to others.
Go for a day and buy a new outfit, get your nails done, etc. You need time for yourself and what ever makes you feel good. We still want to be attractive after children and you shouldn’t put yourself down!
I would ask mr honesty was he trying to make you jealous? That comment was very immature and it show’s he doesn’t realize beauty is more than skin deep. Also for yourself, don’t ask questions you wouldn’t want the answer to… unless you’re really prepared.
Do not ever allow anyone to make you feel less attractive… Know you who you are and that’s what matters and if you have gained some weight, than start going to the gym!
You asked a question knowing he is a really honest guy who was gonna answer truthfully. Would you rather he lie to you? Is he the most attractive man you have ever been with? He chose you, loves you, let it go.
Never ask a question you don’t want the answer to!! Took me half my life to learn this lesson!!
Dont ask questions you don’t want the actual answer to…
Since you already opened that can of worms… ask why and what you could do
I think if he really loved you he wouldn’t have said that.
I feel if you asked for an honest answer- you have to take the answer even if it’s not what you want to hear… I feel it’s unrealistic to be the #1 person in someone’s life in ALL categories…
I will say attractiveness is not everything. If his exgirlfriend was SO hot great, but there is a reason he is with you and not her!!
Well why would you ask a question you didn’t -really- want the answer to?
You asked the question! You should have been prepared for whatever answer he gave you. Were you just trying to stir the pot. You need to do some soul searching and look within yourself and stop looking to someone else to validate you.