My 10-year-old son has been watching inappropriate things: Advice?

My ten-year-old son has been watching inappropriate type things on YouTube lately and also found some adult magazines that his dad had previously put away, and I have no idea what to do about it. I have taken his tablet away, but somehow, he keeps finding ways to him on YouTube at home. I have also disposed of the magazines. I can’t even figure out how he even learned how to look for things like that because his dad and I don’t look at that type of stuff online, and the magazines are from before we met (didn’t know he even had them). I have tried everything I know to explain to him that it is not appropriate to watch things like that, and I don’t know what else to do. Does anyone have ANY advice? TIA

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Put a block on YouTube

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Like inappropriate cuz it’s porn or like
Inappropriate because it’s like a rougher more adult type of porn?

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Well now he has a very curious mind!

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Remove all privileges. If he has to use the ipad you can lock it onto one app. Go into settings, Accessibility then, Guided access. It will explain how to set it up.

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Kids are smart they learn it from friends. Monitor or put block on his device.

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It’s time for “the talk”.
He is curious which is normal. Making him feel bad or making him feel like a pervert will only hurt him. Sex is a normal part of being a human. Kids are curious. Where did he learn things? TV, school, music,. Does he see you and dad kiss or embrace each other?
Sit down and talk to him, ask him if he has questions, and give full honest answers.

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Is it not normal for kids to get curious around that age??

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It’s time for the “talk”… Girls aren’t the only ones that need to have that conversation. He’s getting curious. Obviously put more parental controls on the electronics, but don’t make him feel ashamed or that it’s “bad”, just let him know that he is too young to understand

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He’s 10 and curious. He’s probably heard things at school. Just talk to him.

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Talk to him… answer his questions. Explain what is appropriate to watch and what’s not and lay out definite rules and punishments and follow through… good luck, its rough

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:joy::joy::joy::joy::point_left:t3: he is 10… he is curious :woman_shrugging:t3: it’s a boy thing!! Lol

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No parental stops???

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He could have seen it at a friend’s house maybe? Or just someone else’s house in general… and it sparked a curiosity in him.

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Just talk to him hes curious and probably heard it from school. I would sit him down and talk to him.

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Well he is a guy and if you feel the need to take it away he will find anyway to get to it and he would be at the age of things like

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Parental controls on all electronic devices and its time to have the talk, he’s curious.

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I would sit him down and tell him that it is completely normal for him to want to look at pictures and or videos about sex. I wouldn’t punish him but explain that he is too young to be trying to find out how things work on his own. And if he has any questions he can ask you!

We should never shame our children for wanting to know how things work or teach them that sex is bad. Sex is a beautiful thing but only when the time is right. And obviously 10 is not the right time :joy:

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You need to talk to him about the birds and the bees. Seems like some hormone stuff is happening, he is probably feeling new things. I would try not to shame him, it’s not nessicarily bad that he is feeling these things, it’s natural and he likely can’t help it. So probably time to talk about all that stuff but try to explain how that content is for adults and you can’t allow him to watch that stuff. That sex is between 2 adults who love each other yata yata and that’s how babies are made yata yata, but what he is watching is for grown ups and something he is truly too young for. Stuff like that. I’ve never had to deal with that my son is only 3 but I’d imagine if try to say something along those lines. Also get dads help.

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Honey I have raised 3 sons and we were strict on their internet access and they still found a way…

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