My 11-year-old has been obsessed with her weight: Advice?

My 11-year-old daughter is obsessed with her weight. She’s always checking herself in the mirror and saying, “look, you can see my bones.” I have always had a great body image, even though I’m a thick woman, and I’m not sure where this is coming from. I always make sure she eats, even though she only eats very little. What can I do to help her? I worry that this behavior can get worse or out of control.

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The same issue with my 11 year old… much advise needed

I would sit down and ask her about it and maybe get a counselor invouled i say this from personal experience that this can get out of control very fast

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I would get her into therapy.

I’d speak to the school making sure meals are ate also talk to your family doctor so they can help and advise which route you need to go down to get her help and support

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Tell her she’s beautiful every chance you get.

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I would go ahead and get her in therapy. 1) to head off any eating disorder issues 2) to make that a normal part of her upbringing so later in life she won’t think twice about getting therapy for whatever situation may arise

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Get her to proper nutritional concelling ASAP

My mom had the same problem with my sister’s. She had to get rid of all the scales in the house entirely cause at 12 they were Essentially competing on who could be skinnier faster :persevere:

School. It’s always tied to school.

I think it’s just the age n kids at school…my 11 year old says the same things…just reassure her she is beautiful n if anyone makes a comment on her weight its just cuz they r jealous

Maybe people are picking on her at school. Try to talk to her about it and ask

Put her in a sport of some kind. Exercise = hunger. Hunger leads eating, toning muscle building etc… worked for me.

I work in a youth rehabilitation center and we deal with eating disorders, and I’m really happy you are reaching out! That’s a start for sure. I’m sorry you’re having to even deal with the worry of this. I definitely agree with what’s been said. Talk with her, and seek local help. You could even start with her school’s counselor. If nothing else the school counselor can guide you in the right direction. And when talking with her, if you can keep open and safe communication (not getting upset with the things she says) it will help a ton! Hope you get the answers you need.

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As someone who has an eating disorder (you always battle this, it never goes away but I am in what I call active recovery), I’m going to advise that you tread lightly. I would start with a nutritionist or a nutrition class where she can learn about what bodies need for proper nutrition. Then y’all go shopping for food and cook together. Always give her some control in what she eats or it can become a situation where she rebels because she feels like you are forcing her and that can have a negative effect. I’m not sure I would jump to therapy yet, but it would definitely be something I would consider if the nutrition lessons don’t help.

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Therapy NOW. This is the beginning of anoxia and needs to be nipped in the bud now before it gets any worse

Is she actually considered to be underweight? Or is it something that she’s internalized regardless of accuracy? I’m wondering if seeing if she actually is or not, through a doctor or nutritionist, might be a good place to start. She can either be told that she’s just fine the way she is, or a plan can be put into place to help her achieve that. Just a thought. Good luck!

If she’s wanting to gain some weight (if her metabolism will let her) give her food thats high in calories

My mom always modeled positive body image for me but it didn’t stop me from developing an eating disorder in my early teens. I suggest therapy. It helped me tremendously. I wish society was different and didn’t pollute innocent minds like it does.