My 12-year-old goes through my texts and my husband doesn't see an issue with it: Thoughts?

My 12-year-old daughter randomly goes through my phone and reads my messages, and my husband doesn’t understand why it’s so wrong. He says me getting upset over it makes him think I have something to hide. I don’t hide anything, nor do I need to hide anything. My phone is my personal property, and I don’t like the idea of having to be careful about what I text my friends or what I post on Facebook because my daughter might see it. It Has nothing to do with me being unfaithful. This time her going through my phone ruined a surprise I had for her. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy because he doesn’t see my side of it. He has trust issues, and I feel like they are rubbing off on her, and she needs to go through my phone, and part of it is that she is just a nosy person. Am I overreacting, or is he wrong? PS. I put a lock on my phone, and she is aware she is not allowed to go through my phone.

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She’s 12 she shouldn’t go through your phone.

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Get her a phone or tablet

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Makes me wonder if he isnt using her to find out if your cheating in him

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Add a password. Problem solved.

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You’re the mom not her. Put a lock on your phone.

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Lock your phone! My phone stays locked and my daughter knows not to touch it UNLESS I give it to her or ask her to get it for me! Your not crazy you have a right to feel the way you do especially with Christmas coming

WHAT. THE FUCK? That is absolutely NOT okay.

Sounds like he’s telling her to do it​:joy::joy:if it were reversed I bet he’d be pissed

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You’re the adult she is the child…enough said.

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When was the last time you went through his phone?
Would he let her go into your purse??

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He is wrong. There is no reason your child, at any age, should be going through your phone. But you are an adult and things you may post, or text about are none of your 12 year olds business. If your husband doesnt trust you, he can look at your phone himself if its that serious smh

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No she doesn’t need to be going through your phone. They don’t need to see everything we do and say.

Change the code and maybe only tell your husband the code if he just absolutely has to know it.

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Put a lock on it. If he wants to see your messages let him but there is no reason for your daughter to be reading them.

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Put a finger print lock. On it. Sometimes me and my man have some sexual convos i wouldnt want our daughter seeing at all.

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Start sending your husband some super steamy texts
She’ll be so mortified she’ll never snoop again lol

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Your child is not your equal. It’s not about having anything to hide…

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Definitely sounds like he’s asking her to do it. Very odd that a 12 year old feels inclined to look through her mother’s texts…

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Lock it and only give him the passcode.

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