My home doesn’t feel like my home while he is here. How do I fix this? Is it fixable? Or do I leave his father? His father isn’t really doing much, other than keeping him close to his side while he is here. But when he has to use the bathroom, or run to the store, he acts up. If his father leaves the room, he acts up. He has spoken to him multiple times. He has spoken to his mother about it, and she says, “you’ll have to figure it out” she doesn’t punish him at her house for what he does here. It’s almost like when he leaves his actions are erased… what do I do?
If your married to this man and have committed to being his step mom, you need to just that. That’s your home, where you are the adult. Children need boundaries and rules to thrive. Make sure though to let him know he is welcome. That’s his home part time I assume. Your a mother figure. Assert your self as so. Children should be taught to respect all adults. Not just there parents. And know if his mother isn’t helping parent, you can only do so much. Don’t stress things you can’t change. And embrace the things you can. Good luck with your situation.
I would never say to him this is my house😗I would say we all live here we all need to respect each other and the home! I feel when a child is addressed rudely they will feel so left out and act out WE ARE OUR CHILDRENS VOICES!!!
I mean it’s your house and I would put my foot down and lay down the ground rules if he doesn’t obey then he doesn’t come over plain and simple
The bit in your question about leaving his father. Your hubby makes me wonder about your intentions. Good luck
Then you need to do it
Set rules n punishment for him. He needs to respect you and your home
You’re married to his dad. Work it out. Don’t be a step mom but let him know you’re there.
You need to explain to him that this is your house too and he needs to respect you and your rules if he can’t behave and be civil to you then he should not be welcomed into your home maybe come up.with consequences you.and your husband agree upon
If setting boundaries n rules don’t work. Take time for yourself (a spa day) spend time away from him and his father…
You and your husband need to have a Come to Jesus meeting! Get some rules established and don’t let daddy, kiddo or x wife run roughshod over you! If daddy isn’t willing to do this…don’t let the door hit ya where the good Lord splint ya!
Take him and do fun things with him. LOVE him. TALK to him. Ask him about his likes and dislikes. Let him help plan meals, help you shop, prepare the meal. Include him. Buy him something he wants when he acts properly. He is feeling torn and abandoned. He needs structure, routine, boundaries, discipline but most of all love, acceptance, praise and encouragement.
Spair the rod and spoil the child does not work like Kimberly said whoop his Ass
Do nothing. You’re not his parent and he’s reminding you of that.
Suck it up! Be a Disneyland step- mom.
Are you Married to his Father? That Man Needs to SET THE TONE ABOUT HIM RESPECTING YOU AND YALL HOUSE. And if you’re NOT Married to the Father I’ll LEAVE him and His Demon Seed! Kid too DARN old to be Acting OUT! DON’T Never Ever Let anyone DISTURB YOUR PEACE! Don’t nobody have time for that! Happy WIFE HAPPY LIFE!
You can’t expect his mom to punish him for something that didn’t happen at her home or in her presence. Sit him and your husband down and explain the rules, your expectations and the consequences if he can’t behave.
You’re in a complicated position. No matter what the step-parent does, it’s a lose-lose battle. Don’t expect his mother to enforce consequences for something that happens in yours and your husband’s house. Have one last discussion with your husband and detail the exact behavior that you will no longer allow in that house. Detail what the consequences will be if he breaks those rules. Tell your husband that he has a decision, that either he can enforce it or you will. Tell your husband that him and forcing it will go a lot further. But it is your home and you need to take the emotion out of it and just have exact rules and exact consequences. Be prepared oh, you will piss a lot of people off. But you do not have to allow toxic behavior in the house, no matter what the situation is.
Well the only thing that matters is support from his dad. If you don’t have that then nothing will work!
You and your husband need to sit down and set guidelines for that boy that he is ok with you also following through it can’t just be him you both need to be each others backup and get that youngin to respect your household. The more involved your husband let’s you be the better off the boy will respect you both. If the mother doesn’t like you serving a punishment then you tell her well you should help step up at her house … being a step parent is not for the weak so if you leave just because a kid is being a teenager then you probably shouldn’t have gotten with him in the first place. (Not saying It to be rude just stating a fact)