My 14-month-old is always hitting his head on things: Advice?

My son is 14 months, he keeps hitting his head off of the floor, wall, hand, basically anything he can when he doesn’t get his way. I’m trying really hard to comfort him when he does it but, the sound of him doing it and how angry he gets after is making me depressed. I feel like I’m not a good mom because none of my friends or family have gone through this. He also runs towards me when I tell him no to bite me, scratch me, or to slap whatever I’m holding in my hand to the ground. I’m a first-time mom, single, and I’m young. I’ve never been around children under four until I had mine, and nobody told me how to raise a child. This whole situation is making me depressed, his doctors keep staying it a phase, but he won’t stop! He does it at least three times an hour.

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My youngest did that for a while as well. Only one of my four kids to do it. What finally worked, which was hard to do, was to walk away and ignore him when he started banging his head. I guess he was doing it for attention and to try and make me feel bad so he could get his way.

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Blah, it really is a phase, n sometimes it lasts awhile. My 2nd youngest is kind of like that and she’s a lil over 2 years. Hang on mama

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Have you tried not acknowledging him when he does it? Maybe he does it because he sees he gets a reaction and like you said is doing it because he isn’t getting his way.

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Okay start off by a calm down bottle get your self a water bottle fill it up with water and sparkles and offer this to him when is upset find a time out chair and put him in this chair when he acts up and hand him this bottle consistency is key with kids don’t give in or up just don’t out stubborn them :heart: or they aren’t going to learn anything

This happenes to my daughter doctor says same thing and here we are 9 years later she got diagnosed with odd dmd and ADHD and now on meds but the meds make her a whole new child if it continues get a second opinion also if he or she acts out in school notify doctor that is how I got my daughter in counceling it has really helped her best of luck mama

I would see if you could get him evaluated by Early Childhood Intervention.

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I’m literally going through the same thing with my 20 month old. my boy only does this though when he’s also teething so it’s been coming in cycles and I hate it! If that’s what’s happening I just sooth him. Give him Tylenol and cuddles. Sometimes I take the situation else where. I’ll go get a Banana or we’ll get a sippy or a favorite toy and redirect his mood.

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My son is the same way with hitting his head. His doctor says its just something boys do and to distract him. He gets plenty of attention, he just throws fits. I’m so afraid of him getting TBI from it but his doctor says that won’t happen.

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Yeah don’t acknowledge it and it does get better. My 18 month son does this. He’s rather goofy and thinks it’s funny but we just try to redirect him.

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My brother did that and they TRIED to say adhd it was a milk allergy! He is perfectly fine now

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It’s normal. Children that age gets frustrated as well. They cant directly tell you exactly what they want or need. Dont show anger or any negative feelings towards him just patience. If he doesn’t grow out of it, As a mother you’ll have that instinct that something isnt right dont be afraid to contact your dr and ask about autism I’ve talked with moms who’s children didnt grow out of that phase that were diagnosed with autism. I know it’s not easy but you gotta think about your own health as well… physical, mental and emotional… take some time to yourself once in a while. When possible… me time is everything!

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Don’t react when he sees he doesn’t get a response maybe he’ll stop!

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Thankfully my grandson seems to have grown out of that stage, but we all have one of these in our homes, that he’d wear when he was visiting (or at home)

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I can not stress this enough, IGNORE IT!
Make sure he’s in a safe space and ignore him! Dont talk to him, look at him, try to reason with him, nothing.
The more attention (positive or negative) he receives, the more fuel you add to his fire. Act like you cant see or hear him, and when he gets done act like it was boring you.

But, no, you’re not alone. And yes, it is a phase. Just try to ride it out.
Start implementing time outs. 3 minutes will do for his age. Ignore him when he is in time out.
Kids this age are just testing their limits and seeing what will work. Try not to take it personally. Dont spank, hit, or yell. They’re having emotions they dont know how to deal with. Make an emotions chart with emoticons. One for you and one for him. Move yours to show your emotions, help him understand his emotions. (Not during a meltdown)

Good luck, mama.

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My youngest did it. Behavior therapist said ignore it. It worked.

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Mine did this!! He’s three now. He started walking when he was 9 months old, so he started banging his head against everything shortly after. Doc told me to just keep sharp corners away, or taped up, and let him grow out of it🤣 and he did! He actually has a permanent scar from taking the protector off the corner of my entertainment system and bashing his head into it to rock out to flogging molly😅 boys are seriously insane, but thats why we love em xD

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Don’t just ignore it. If you are concerned, if it affects your day to day life, talk to your child’s dr. My son was having horrible tantrums. Through talking to our dr, we found out he has sensory issues and how to help him help himself in an appropriate manner.

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Lots of good advice in here. I also recommend talking to your doctor about how you’re feeling. Make sure you’re getting a thorough check up in regards to this depression.

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Some childrens seminars on techniques and stuff helped me so much when I had my first. Grab a coffee and go check some out.

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