My 15 month old acts out every time we go to the store: Advice?

I have a 15-month-old Every time I bring her into the store, she starts acting up. Any suggestions on how I can handle this before she gets older, and it gets worse.

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Maybe do something to distract like give a snack or a toy to play with…Kids get bored in stores…

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Bring items you can clip on to the cart so she can’t just throw them. Sensory type toys. My daughter is the same way. I think she just gets bored and is mad that she can’t be out walking around like everyone else.

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I realize screen time isn’t the best option, but sometimes it’s all I can do to keep my 15-month-old entertained. His grandma got him an Amazon Kid’s Tablet and it’s super durable. I have it loaded with some of his favorite 30 min shows (Sesame Street, Bubble Guppies, etc) and also some Fisher Price Games. He also has some favorite YouTube’s and if there’s WiFi I’ll put some of those on. He’s finally at an age where he can hold the tablet (or even my phone) without throwing it, so I just let him hold onto it in his lap. Keeps him happy to and from the store AND during! We’ve tried bringing toys in with us, but unless it’s strapped to the stroller he tends to lose them. Snacks are another good way to keep them happy!

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My son who is now 4 did this. Would literally start acting up as soon as we walked through the doors, if we made it that far in. What worked for him , leaving the store. When he started acting out, I’d take him directly to the car. ( sucked multiple times because I had to leave my cart behind) one time only he did it ( 5 or 6 times in of taking him to the car) and I put him in the car seat and left the parking lot. He was destroyed. I circled the block, calmed him down and explained we can’t scream and act up in the store. Told him we could go back if he behaved himself. He did. Never acted up in the store again and still hasn’t. He was about 2 then.

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I used to let my son help with groceries, and play I spy

Give options and include. Do you want Cheerios or honey comb cereal this week? Should we get apples or bananas? Can you point to which meat mommy should choose? Also let them know what you’re doing if it includes them in any way. We’re gonna get in the car now to go shopping. Lets buckle you in nice and safe. Ok I’m gonna get in and start driving now see you at the grocery store. Hi again! Let’s unbuckle you so we can go inside. We’ll use a basket and you can sit in the child’s seat. Ok first up is salt let’s go to the spice isle. You may get funny looks but it works for us lol. I have two docile children so it may not work for everyone but it’s worth a try

He’s probably bored lol. Distraction is key.

My 2 year old is the same way. Every time I think he might be good he proves me wrong every single time. And he’s so loud too. Screams and I get dirty looks. Last time I just left and went back to the car without checking out. Now I won’t even take him. I can’t handle it. I only to curbside pick up now. It’s not the best answer but that’s how I handle it. Although it’s not really teaching him anything but it helps me not to get so embarrassed. Good luck.

That’s normal. Stores are a lot for kids. There’s so many noises, people, and new things and they don’t get to go where they want or touch what they want so it’s hard for them.(: Patience is important and I’ve actually read that avoiding taking your child to the store can help until they’re older. I’ve also heard just being very honest with them and saying I’m sorry but this behaviour is not allowed in the store so we will stay here until you can be calm. Even teaching a calming song or patience song sometimes helps.
Good luck!

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Maybe she is sensitive to that environment. The lighting, the people, the noises…it can be overstimulating her. Try to either ignore the tantrum if you don’t think it’s a sensory thing, or try to go out without her if that’s an option.

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Babywear her :heart: if she likes it. We felt like our life was over when our daughter was younger bc she didn’t do good in public places but if I baby wore her it was amazing ! She wanted the comfort of me holding her and she could nap while being worn. I love the Tula. My baby is 5 now and I have the toddler one she loves using it when her little legs are tired and she goes on back. It’s perfect for up to 60lbs.

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Breathe momma. All child act out…they have a hard time expressing themselves. It may be a sensor overload for her.
I take an activity and a snack when we go out. My daughter is 5 now and i still have to do this.

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Ugh we went through this I feel like it’s taken years but I used to dread the store and I would get so worked up by my son acting up I would like rush out forget what I was trying to buy it was difficult. My mom gave me the best advice… take him out MORE I used to shun away from doing that and avoid it but I did what she said now he is 5 helps me in the store he learned what was acceptable and actually began enjoying it. Good luck to u I remember those days

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I don’t know where you are from, but give it time. The baby carrier is a good idea as mentioned above!
Also, our kids were sooo good in stores before the covid. Then they weren’t allowed or almost for 5 months. When we went back, without giving them snacks (snacks are lifesavers!!!) And after not seeing that many people, toys, lights, things, etc. they were plain awful… 45 min in costco and we were dead for the whole day… give her time to adapt, a little washable toy maybe and if you can a snack :wink:
Also, she is young but try to tell her what you want her to do, instead of “don’t” that we always use so often. Kids get so messed up and don’t know what to do and need to learn. Slowly but surely! You will find how to work as a team pretty soon :slight_smile:

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All kids do it. I stopped it by making my daughter go to the car each time she messed up took twice she stopped. Did the same thing w us going out for dinner. Or hey if your good you can have candy or a small bag of chips or a drink … and it works super quick.

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I got my youngest one a cart of his own to push around and let him help pick a few things out to put in it. The relief of having to chase him or fight him was almost immediate.

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My son used to do that, or scream he needed the toilet just as we walked in, stopped when I threw a tantrum next to him. If it’s all stores might be a sensory thing but if it’s just one store and normally when they act up you buy them something then that’s all they are wanting

Start by making a relatively short list, 15 items or so. Get him to help you find those items and allow him to place it in the cart. Talk about what you need the item for e.g. the cucumber goes in the salad. The onions goes in the soup, what else do you think we need to make MAC and cheese? Also, before you enter tell him that he is allowed to pick 1 treat for himself and he can have It when he gets home if he is well behaved. It worked well with all 3 of my kids, who are now extremely well behaved on the store.

I’m sure most people would probably talk shit about my advice on this, but…dum dum suckers. I give both of my toddlers one when we go to the store and they are like little angels! I definitely brush their teeth 3 times a day so no cavities here! When mine were 15 months I used ring pops.

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