My 15-month-old is meeting her biological dad for the first time: Advice?

He walked out of my daughters life when i was in the first trimester of pregnancy and just popped up out of the blue went to get his GED and now is a fire fighter and would like to meet her. He was abusive and cheated on me multiple times but when I found out I was pregnant I left. But now he popped back up how do I handle the situation what should be some stipulations ?

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Mke. It a supervised visit for a few hours.

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Nothing screams stupid like waiting til you’re pregnant to leave.

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If the dad bettered himself why not let the dad be part of her life, he maybe did it for the better and actually wants to be part of her life.

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If his ready to step up like a man and be a dad to his child then you should let him

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Honestly with the way this is written its very contradicting. But if he has bettered himself you shouldn’t be bitter. And let your daughter have her father.

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Just visit…dont make it complicated.

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Make sure you let him know beforehand that you’re weary to trust him but if he has worked to better his life then let him prove to you that he can be a good father. If you notice any red flags, immediately discuss them instead of letting things add up and make sure you’re always on the same page. If you decide that he hasn’t changed, then you have the right to stop her from seeing him.

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Dont let him have her alone until he proves he is going to stick around and not just disappear, but it sounds like he grew up and is wanting to right his wrongs.

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Supervised visits im thinking

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He’s got his GED, now firefighters. Came to you.
Small changes sit down a have an adult conversation tell supervised at first, and talk about Getting child support started.

People can change especially if they really want to.

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Make sure to be in a public place as well with help like a restaurant.

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You said he left and then said you did, so that’s confusing to me. How old is the child? If he really did better himself, you need to let them have a relationship because if you don’t and he takes you to court, you may not like the outcome even more.

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Be cautious
Just because hes in the field to protect people doesnt mean he has changed once behind closed doors and firemen are known to be the biggest cheaters out there next to cops and military so dont fall back into his arms like a sucker stay strong. I wouldn’t let him be with your daughter alone. Wait until she is comfortable with him. Whos to say he wont bounce again after he gets a taste of a toddlers tantrums… just be cautious

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Use caution in this encounter

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He bettered himself so I am going to assume he’s a changed man. Now if he didn’t I’d still be questioning.

Give him a chance. It is his daughter too

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I honestly would let him meet her, but I would also take someone with us to make sure we’re not alone and also make sure it’s in a public place as well and then after that if everything goes well do supervised visitations

A relationship between them will be healthy to her give him a chance,its not about you and him its her Daddy girls want a males attention especially a Daddy!

I would give him the chance. A little a time, supervised and work your way up.

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