My 16-month-old constantly hits: How can I stop this?

I have a 16-month-old, and I’m lost on how to get my child to learn not to hit people and to listen to mama and daddy. He won’t kiss mama or daddy or hug us. He is very violent towards us, especially me, as his mama and other females. He slaps you in the face or anywhere he can go for no reason at all, and I have no clue where my child has learned this behavior from. He isn’t in daycare and usually never around children and mainly around mama, daddy, and g-ma. When my child’s aunts come over he will slap them whenever they try to give him loving or play with him, and We are trying to teach him not to do it but nothing works, and it is so upsetting and embarrassing that he slaps strangers, family, mama, anyone but like I said mainly, females. I have tried punishing him by taking his toys away and putting him in time out for a few minutes, I’ve tried telling him no and popping his hand, I’ve tried fake crying and saying owe, and now I’m to the point I don’t know what to do because nothing work he just laughs at you and hits you more if you get on to him and put him in time out he gets mad and starts throwing his toys or whatever he can throw at you and screaming trying to fight. Any advice on what to do next because I’m lost, and I can’t continue to let him hit on me or anyone else…

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Take him to a child psychologist

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Dont do that ^ :joy: waste of money. Hes 16 months old.
If you dont stop it now it will only get worse.
Honeslty I’ll catch shit for this but he needs to be disciplined. ( dont beat him )
But dont let it continue.

If there’s nothing like that going on between you and the dad, then maybe it’s stuff he’s watching on tv? Or maybe even watching with Grandma?

My son is 2 and likes to play hit and will do it especially when he is watching The Incredibles cause he likes to copy the fighting

Good luck to you :heart: It could really just mean a matter of change in environment and maybe it’ll stop

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Perhaps a woman has harmed him!

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Talk to doctor could be autism or something else causing the hitting

Maybe just try straight up ignoring him. I’m sure it hurts when he does it, but they not to give him a reaction at all. Like just get up and walk away until he has a couple minutes. Then come back and explain to him. I think sometimes kids do things to get a reaction.

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Ok so he’s hitting when people try to love on him… he doesn’t want them to do that. He’s showing you a boundary. Kids can say no to affection. They have that right. Timeout isn’t going to work for a one year old. Redirect. Don’t give him a reaction when he hits. Tell him “I’m not playing with you if you’re going to hurt me” and walk away. Teach don’t punish… he’s too young to understand punishments.

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Make have time out and get him help

Try ignoring him. Sometimes you just have to turn your back on them and ignore the behavior. Some kids will choose any kind of attention even if it is negative.

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Litterally this is a phase. Idk why everyone is blaming tv or autism or someone else harming him. My kid is 21 months old and does this. They dont know around this age. Hes just get super hyper and doesnt control himself. They are toddlers. My oldest son did this and hes a thriving 6 year old now. Dont worry. Just ignore it and itll pass. He’s doing it for attention. My toddler pushes us away all the time because I wanna kiss on him and hug on him. It’s the toddler stage. Itll pass.

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Every single time he hits say “NO hitting” and put him in his bed or wherever you do time out. Do not let him out for 90 seconds. Every single time. Do not stop, do not give up, do not let him do 2 or 3 hits before reacting. If you see him winding up to hit, grab his hands and say “NO hitting” consistency is key. He will learn, this is normal for his age.

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U need to get help for that it could become a very bad thing in the future as it will only get worse and by not getting help u will live to regret it

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Is he autistic. It sounds like you need to have him checked out

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Stop popping his hand- that teaches its an answer to a problem.
Timeout in his bed. Dont make a huge fuss over the behavior. Example how to have calm cool and collected habits when frustrated.

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Do something he really enjoys doing. When he hits you take the activity or food and leave him where he is. Go to another seat and continue the activity he enjoys doing. At this age punishments don’t work. It’s redirecting you need to focus on. He will learn that when he hits you’ll leave. If he is still struggling, ask your doc to evaluate him. But hitting is a very normal phase for someone just learning they can have an effect on someone else.

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Ignore him. Send him away and ignore him. We don’t talk/ play with mean boys.

My son went threw a short stage of hitting around that age. I would get up and put him straight into he’s cot for 1 minute. Eventually he learnt that any bad behaviour means he ended up in he’s room. He’s cot had no toys in it, just the mattress to lay on. I didn’t talk to him or anything. I would walk straight over, pick him up then put him in the cot. When we went our, we brought the portable cot with us and placed it in a room away from everyone. He’s now 2 and he doesn’t hit. He still plays rough but, he knows to give hugs or say sorry when he hurts someone and we do 2 minutes time out in a chair in the kitchen.

It’s a phase. My 16 month old loves to slap, head butt, and pull my hair. No one else. He also gives hugs and kisses though. He has a complete meltdown when I tell him no and won’t let him do it.

My 14 month old did this for a couple of months and thank god it turned out to just be a phase. Believe it or not this is somewhat normal behavior for toddler boys. My son didn’t respond to any kind of discipline regarding this either, his dr said he was too young to understand timeout or explaining to him why it was wrong so he told us to ignore him when he’s hitting and to put him down until he stops. He eventually caught on that when he hits we weren’t going to hold him or play with him. I hated it at the time because I felt like I was ignoring him but it worked and I preferred doing that rather than hitting him back like some other moms told me to do.

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