My 18-month-old is struggling to go to bed at night: Advice?

Our son is 18-months and is having a REALLY hard time going to bed at night. He takes naps fine, but at bed-time, he WILL NOT sleep unless he is being held or is in bed with us. He will be out cold, snoring with the pacifier falling out of his mouth, and the second we try to transfer him, he is wide awake. Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you get through it? What helped your child get over it?

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Going Tru the same thing :pensive::exclamation:

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Its a phase. They all go through it. My daughter will be 2 in a few weeks and it takes her an hour (if I’m lucky) to fall asleep at night. My son went through the same thing. It passes eventually.

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Warm milk before bed look into melitonion it’s a natural supplement there are other natural things as well warm bath with lavenders before bed she hold them till they pass out even if u gotta hold them tight

When you know they aren’t in a soiled diaper, no fever, not teething allow them to cry it out. I don’t do longer than 10 to 15 mins my 18 month old son has never made it past 10 mins and he realizes I’m not coming to the rescue and he goes on to sleep in his own bed.

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Has he been co sleeping??

Try the cry it out method or the Ferber method. Worked for us :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Put him in a twin bed, lay with him until he’s asleep, then get up. Just put a side rail on the bed or put the twin mattress on the floor.

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We would put our son in his bed and his dad would massage his little head until he fell asleep. We would also play calming music

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Same here, sometimes the night light works but some others she in bed with us again. It’s frustrating :pensive:

My son just went thru a 3 week phase of fighting sleep for 3 hours every night. It was at a snap of a finger that he went to bed himself and the last week he’s back to his regular schedule

A few questions,
How long does he nap for? How many naps does he have? And where is he laid down to nap?
Perhaps cut a nap out or reduce the amount of time.
If he naps fine in his bed then he can sleep fine in his bed at night. Just a phase x

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I have 3 children. Make sure you have a scheduled time for morning, naps and bedtime. Feed belly good, give warm non stimulatedbath. Lotion and message little body. Then put in bed sit or stand next to the bed with your hand on them until they fall asleep. Don’t talk them maybe hum. They’ll get use to you being there. Then you’ll be able to gradually cut the time and they’ll just go to sleep.

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My son had trouble going to bed at that age. I stopped giving him any kind of sugary drinks or snacks after dinner. (like yogurt) Then I stuck to a serious routine every night, bath at 630 til 7ish then a half an hour of storytime and relaxing in his room. Then in bed lights out. He would get mad at first but got use to it and embraced it. Its all about consistency.

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I did the cry out method with my youngest because she started wanting to sleep only when I held her, she would cry for only about 10-15 minutes and fall asleep, and now after couple of months she goes to sleep soon as I lay her down with a bottle…and she takes a 2-3 hour nap during the day. She’s 18 months. You just have to train them

My guy is 2.5 and still like this and then once I get him into his bed he sleeps for a little bit then wakes up this goes on all night waking up a million times I have tried everything I just want a solid nights sleep lol he hasn’t had naps since he was about a 1.5 so frustrating

A bedtime routine saved us big time. We have dinner, a little outside play time, some indoor play time, read books (no TV on) and then brush teeth. Ever since we started that it’s been amazing, cried a few minutes for the first couple days and no problem now. We also don’t let him nap past 3pm

Watch how late his last nap is.

Self soothing is what worked for my kids when they wouldn’t sleep in their own bed. I was not one for my kids sleeping in bed with me.

Cry it our worked for both of my girls. But whatever works for u. I also have seen people bath the babies in water from boiled lettuce or chamomile tea watet