My 18-month-old wakes up as much as a newborn does: Please help!

My baby is 18 months old and still wakes up every 2-3 hours like a newborn. I have been like this LITERALLY since she was born. After she wakes up the first time, she will not go back to her bed. She will only sleep for the rest of the night if held. Even if I try to put her to sleep first and then put her in bed, she wakes instantly. I feed her before bed but not right before bed, so it has time to settle. She is hydrated. She’s not sick. Not teething. No noise other than the ocean wave noise maker I have in her room. I tried to let her cry it out a few times, but she doesn’t cry herself to sleep. She screams until she can’t breathe and starts turning blue. I tried a night light. I thought maybe she was scared of the dark. She will sleep on my chest in the recliner or in my bed, but I know that’s not safe, so then I won’t sleep. I don’t know what else to do. Suggestions? I’m so sleep-deprived. I forgot to put my car in the park the other day. Thankfully I noticed the drifting before I got out and got it in the park before any damage happened. But I clearly need sleep.

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Don’t let her sleep too much during the day - keep her active and wear her out. :wink:

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Co sleep with her …best nights sleep ever she wants to be close

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Have you talked to her doctor? I would honestly start there. I struggled with the same exact thing with my son but he had chronic ear infections. I didn’t get sleep until he finally got tubes put in his ears. I used to have to drive him around at 3 am because driving would put him to sleep. Countless times I had to sleep on his floor. It was extremely rough but we made it through. I can’t say what will work for you other than to talk to her pediatrician but I can say that I relate to that sleep deprivation and you got this!

Contact your pediatrician.

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My son was like that. Come to find out it was me. Since birth any little fuss I jumped to get him. Not realizing babies fuss to sooth. He didn’t sleep through the nite in his own room till 5. My daughter I learned with and let her do the little fuss to put herself back to sleep. Has been sleeping 12 hours a nite in her own room since 4 months. She will be 3 tomorrow

Crying it out doesn’t fix anything. People need to stop doing that it’s mean.
Get her a big stuffed animal to sleep next too, put one of your old shirts on it.
Don’t give any naps during the day. Get her to be active and stuff during the day.

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Keep naps minimal and a lavender bath before bed. Also try to sit with her room reading a book or listening to music with her prior to bed. I find sometimes little ones are scared just cause your not there, put her in bed sit beside the crib let her know she’s ok once she falls asleep knowing you’re there will soothe her she may wake up but I would just wrap her in a shirt you’ve worn for scent she’ll relax a bit better

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Put the crib near you or you sleep near the crib. When my son did that and I had work the next morning I’d put the tv on, turn the volume down, then sleep on the couch with the crib near me

Try feeding her some warm cereal, like oats, cream of wheat, or porridge before bed… She maybe hungry…

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Let her sleep with you. She just wants her mummy next to her.

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I’m not sure what country you are in but contact your doctor or whole ever you see for child related medical stuff, have a chat with them and also look into sleep schools, they can be expensive but are absolutely worth it, if she has a security item like a blanket or teddy, try spraying your perfume on it, it may help as it may be your scent she is getting comfort from, also try to find a heart beat recorder thingy (sorry for the horrific wording I’ve seen them before but no idea where or what they’re called) and play that under her head at night, you can also look into safe co sleeping with her, given what you have said about your sleep deprivation and only if y pou are absolutely ok with it, speak with your med professional and explore sleep aids for her, I DO NOT advocate for giving children meds to help them sleep unless it’s extreme circumstances and a last resort but given what mum has said, it’s at least something to look into at this point

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I would definitely try to lessen nap time during the day. Also make sure you have a set ritual for bed every night so that she understands that its sleeping time and different than the rest of the day.

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She needs a sleep study

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My baby had same problem, never slept and is same age as yours. What i do is take him out in stroller with warm milk and give 10 or more walks around home. Moonlight, night darkness and stroller moving surely help your baby sleep, no talk or anything, just nights tranquility. Try making it daily as a routine so when baby see you put in stroller with milk falls faster. Dont forget to put hot clothes but not over dressed, 2 shirts and sweater or light jacket is ok and 2 light blankets.
Also i put a milk jar next to cradle so anytime is finish only fill again, my baby takes 2-3 bibis in night and one or two diaper change.
Also he never wanted sleep in cradle alone, but bed is still insecure so until i took off one side and put it next to my bed he felt his own space without feeling prisoner.
I was same like you having like 4 hours or less sleep per day, but this phase will change, for me was like 3 weeks of daily stroller walk until he knew it was sleeping time

Could always try a weighted blanket

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maybe it’s the ocean wave sound or the room.

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Baby swaddle her and instead of ocean sounds do the heartbeat one or humming/vibration sounds really helped when mine where young , also limit her naps nothing after 2pm .

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Sounds like little lady have separation anxiety.
Try placing a top you wire for the in her crib. When she asleep place her on top on it, so that she can get your scent. If you cover little lady, get another top to cover her. At least, she feel secure smelling your scent. I did that with my last child. She 10 now, and takes my tops to sleep.
Hope you get sleep soon. Don’t want you to get post partum depression.

Safe co-sleeping guidelines:

https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

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