My 2-year-old doesn't have a great relationship with her dad: Advice?

My 2 yr old daughter and I have a great bond. She’s attached to my hip at all times and will even follow me into the bathroom to cheer her and daddy, however? Not so much. He definitely tries and will play with her, talk to her, etc. but she will usually run from him, say NO when he tells her he loves her, etc. I can see it hurts his feelings, but I’m not sure how to help. I don’t want to keep telling her, “go give daddy a hug” because I want her to understand her body is her body and no one else’s. BUT how do I help them gain a better relationship???

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This is a normal phase. He needs to take her places, a park, lunch, a walk, etc. Just the two of them.

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You can’t help him build a relationship…only he can do it.

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Daddy daughter “dates” have him take her out to do something fun so they can bond

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This is totally normal. Babes are usually obsessed with their moms for the first 3 years & then there’s a switch. As of right now I would just try to show her how much YOU love dad (so she’ll know she can too) & do activities that include all three of you

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When you’re about to give her a treat or something have him do it or tell her to ask Daddy for it.

Our daughter went through this as well! My hubby was hurt when she wouldn’t spend time with him so I suggested that we reserve special things (like little treats, or special movies, or special games) for only when he’s home. A couple times a month, he’d bring her home a special chocolate she really liked or ice cream. And eventually she came out of the phase. Now they’re best buddies and she gets SO excited when he gets home from work because that means play wrestling and goofing off in ways I don’t normally with her.

You can try and foster them having more one-on-one interactions and maybe you go to a different room or leave the house for a little while so they can focus on their time together, but honestly kids go through developmental phases where they favor one parent over the other. Usually it is followed with another phase where the opposite parent is favored. It’s completely normal and should subside eventually. But there are some kids who are just more prone to having bonded with a specific parent, too :woman_shrugging:

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When my daughter was 2 she would tell daddy she didn’t love him and kick him out of the house by 4 he was the love of her life. Don’t worry it will pass.

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He needs one on one daddy, daughter time without mommy around and to do fun things, but also mommy needs to step back, maybe go for a coffee or walk and let daddy bath her and read a bed time story. It will be tough at first but worth it down the road, it is a normal phase.

Have something him and her do together that you don’t. Something that excites both of them. I wouldn’t really push it though. Could always be a phase. My son has been a mommas boy since he came out of me and still is. Some kids are just like that

Well my issue was Daddy’s movies and video games is what he did when he came home so there is no bonding time with that. (Ploping your kid on the sofa to watch you is no fun.)
I had to slap the silly out of that and insist he try playing legos, read to her, lightsaber battles, color, etc.

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Daddy daughter dates is a great way for them to bond together just the two of them. Also it may be something she grows out of I used to call my mom Lisa never mama or mom I grew out of it. It may just may take her some time.

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Don’t worry about it mommy mine did it too. It was so bad she would scream bloody murder if he even tried to get her out of her carseat. It lasted about 6 months. My hubby would ask me why she hated him. It was so sad. She is now 7 and stuck to his side. I started by just telling her let’s go give daddy loves and I would give him a hug and kiss with her in my arms and he would give us one back. Then We went to the you can’t love on my daddy game
She eventually just started to go love on him by herself.

My husband was going through chemo when our second daughter was born. He tried to but she wouldn’t go by him. She only wanted me. They grow out of it. She got real close to him eventually. To this day they are still close. Don’t do anything. Don’t force her. She will come around on her own

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Two year olds have a phase where no is their favorite word. She’ll grow out of it. Let daddy know he’s the best daddy in the world because he’s hers.

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Mine were the same way so I started making them go to their dad anytime they had a boo boo or needed a band aid! They finally got used to him and knew they could count on him just like they could mommy! It really helped when they were small! Plus it got him more involved with helping take care of them!

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Daddy and daughter dates. He has to create that bond with her, you can’t do it for him.

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Never force a kid to go to someone that they are not comfortable being around. Not all parents are created equal. Just watch the news.

I have a 20 yr old son and a 21 yr old daughter , my daughter was like that when little , boys and men where icky, lol , but He will be the image of what a man is supposed to be in her life and I can tell you she will eventually adore him, my daughter got married in August , her daddy cried, she cried, because her daddy cried, she will fight anyone over her daddy!!!