My 3-year-old son won't poop on the potty: Advice?

My son is three years old. He can go potty by himself pretty good. He can take his stuff off and go open the door, turn the light on, pee. Wash his hands. But he refuses to poop… so I’m here asking for advice on what I can do to help him. To make him want to do it. He wears pullups at night and usually when we go out to town or wherever. The dad tends to keep putting pullups on him even in the day, and that makes me mad. I want him to be in undies at all times… also there was a point where he tried to poop in the potty, but he sat too far back and it got on the seat so he was upset but I was so happy because that was the first time he ever tried and he did pretty good, but ever since then it’s like he never wants to try again. He also held his poop inside for a week or so after this incident causing him a bellyache. There was nothing I could do except give him juice and encourage him to poop. I was about to take him to the doctor, but then he finally went on himself, which I was glad and didn’t care at the time if he went in a diaper as long as he let it out… He has stopped holding it in now, but I just need help. He’s going to be starting school next year, so I’m hoping I can get him potty trained by then. He pees fine it’s just the pooping part that we need to work on.

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Following! My three year old son does this too!! He knows how but refuses.

I have the same issue with my 3 year old… fully day and night trained, but absolutely refuses to poop on the potty. He also went a week and I gave in unfortunately.

Mine was the same way. He would go by a tree outside. If he wasn’t able to get to this tree he simply wouldn’t go. About 2 days of no poop I watched him till he could hold it any more and held him on the toilet. Till he pooped in it. After that no more issues. It’s like he was scared to do it in there

I made my son clean out his underwear after pooping them after 3 times he went in potty.

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Never did the toddler thing, but what I have found with kids in general that the less important you make it to you, the better. Relax. Unless he has some developmental issue, he wont be in diapers long.

When you know he is pooping put him on the potty.

Undies. He needs to feel it after he goes. And rewards for when he does go potty or poop. My child quickly got the concept when I rewarded her with her favorite candy

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My daughter had the same issue as gross as it sounds mamas let them poop on themselves and leave it there for 5 mins they wont like the feeling and get the point and also no more pull ups or pampers at all thats what makes them think its ok to not go on the potty

Following. My 3 year old is the same exact way. I’m so tired of cleaning poop out of underwear.

My oldest was terrified to poo. He was no accidents in like 3 days during daytime. He would hold his poop(wouldnt poop in undies) and would go in his night pull up within 20mins of having it. One night, I got drinks, tablet and books and we sat in the bathroom before bed. I kid you not, we sat there for almost 50mins and he finally went. I had to do it the next night for about 20mins and then after that, he dis ok.

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We are going thru this with my son right now. We started a potty chart and bought stickers with his favorite characters on them. He gets one for pee and 3 for poop. He gets really proud of himself and we have noticed him going and sitting on the potty to try to poop more often to get stickers. We are currently on day 2 with no poop accidents.

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My boys were both afraid to sit on the toilet so we got one of those seats that goes on top so they didn’t feel like the toilet was going to swallow them. Maybe he’s afraid?

This is usually the last stage of potty training. Just keep encouraging him and make a big deal out of it. He will get it. It’s harder for them to hold #2 it’s the last one to develop.

Turn him around and give him markers to draw on the toilet lid. They wash off super easy. That’s what I did to help my son.

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Get rid of the diaper

Get him check my doc just to make sure there no issues my boy always peed fine from day one but couldn’t sit and poo I thought he was scared of every potty I bought ( we went through so many!) and the toilet even though I asked what was wrong he never said it hurt when actually it hurt
He’s 5-1/2 now takes medication and we still have issues as well as great weeks, always best just to have it checked out

My oldest was the same, peed on the potty no problem, would literally hide and poop in his pants. He even started school a couple months late because of it. I tried everything I could think of, reward systems, sticker systems, any and all advice from my family and friends. Then one day, he just did it, and was fine after that.

I got a small seat that my son puts on the toilet when he poos. He was having Trubble trying to hold himself up on the normal toilet seat, so it would take his consentration away from the task at hand… or even cause anxiety of falling in, so he wouldn’t use it for pooping until we got the smaller seat to hold him up.

My 3 1/2 year old keeps going back and forth. Some days she does awesome, stays dry and pees in the potty everytime. Other days…not so much. She had horrible constipation when she was 1 1/2 and we tried sitting her on the potty and it freaked her out. She knows when she has to go potty and will tell me and can do it herself but refuses to most days. I figure one day she’ll just decide that she’s going to go potty in the toilet all the time and that’ll be it (I was the same way when I was little).