My 3 year old wakes up my 8 month old when he comes into my room: Advice?

I still co-sleep with my nearly three-year-old. I get him to sleep with me and put him in his own bed when he falls asleep, but he wakes during the night and runs into my bed, usually when I’m asleep. Also, my 8-month-old is a very light sleeper and sometimes wakes 4 5 times and only sleeps properly when he’s lying on me. Im exhausted and feel like the same thing is going to start happening. Any tips?

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Teach 3 year old to start sleeping in his own room. He may still get up in the night to come sleep with you but he’s less likely to do so bc he’s waking up in a different place than where he fell asleep. When he wakes up in his room he’s confused and he goes back to you. If he goes to sleep in his own room, he will eventually stay there.

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Start making your 3 year old sleep in his room. Put the baby in a crib (it’s not safe to have a baby sleeping on you sorry)

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Put the 3yr old In their own bed and the baby in a crib.

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Put a gate up at his door so he stays in his room.

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No more co sleeping with your 3 year old. The reason he is waking up is because he isn’t in the same place he fell asleep. He needs to sleep in his own room by himself. It’s going to 100x harder now cuz he is 3 should have sleep trained at 6 months lld

Try a white noise machine for your light sleeper and my 3rd was a light sleeper with the noise machine in our room. We moved him to his own room at 10 months and he started sleeping 12 hours no wake ups with the noise machine. My 2 year old is a light sleeper but listen to books on cds. They all sleep in their own room

Baby gate the older child’s door. My almost five year old still has one he can’t undo yet and it makes us sleep better knowing he can’t roam the neighborhood or come wake us up.

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Put the 3 year old in their own room and the baby in a crib.

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I have this issue (im 33 weeks pregnant with babe #2) and im worried this is gonna happen in a few weeks when baby arrives. My 3 year old falls asleep in his room and when he wakes up he will go potty and come get in my bed. Im so exhausted from taking him to his bed during the night, sometimes 4 or 5 times. Im just too pregnant to have him in my bed. His dad takes up enough room as it is. Ugh

Never co-slept for that reason. I had a friend with three girls that would do this! If he was sick or scared, he would sleep with me. He has his room for a reason. It’s going to suck, but you have to break 'em in.

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Nip it in the butt now or you’ll be stuck with a 5 yr old who still comes to my room in the middle of the night

Gotta get up keep putting the 3yr old back in their bed till fall asleep. Till they learn. Move the baby to their own crib while still young enough.

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Get them both used to sleeping in their own beds…

I mean, you’re already exhausted…why not try it for a week or 2 and see if all 3 of you cant get some better sleep. :slight_smile:

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Be strong mumma! Get your 3 yo sleeping in own room, and 8 month old into a crib, or you’ll never get a good nights sleep. Just keep putting 3 year old back into his/her bed, maybe a gate on door to stop leaving. Potty in room. Maybe a night light, I leave alexa on low for my lil boy as he is calmed by music. Drives me nutty trying to fall asleep, but keeps him asleep which is lovely! Other things to try might be rewarding when stay in own room, like stickers charts, choosing a toy, magazine or sweets (nothing to huge lol or lo be expecting it everytime) lol x

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You are going to have to give your three-year-old tough love and teach them how to sleep in their own bed. Also I’m going to point this out learn from your mistakes the first go-around and get your eight-month-old out of your bed and teach them how to sleep in their own crib now so you do not have the same exact problem when they turn 3.

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Get them both in there own beds it might take a few nights of tantrums and tears but believe me it took me 7 years to get my boys out my bed no chance I will be doing it again lol

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All 3 of mine slept in bed with me for about the first 2 years of their life. It is perfectly safe in most situations and common in a lot of other countries. Babies and kids of course sleep better when they feel safe and secure (just as us adults do).
But if you’re ready for something different that’s okay too. I suggest having your 3 year old start falling asleep in his own room. He’s more likely to stay asleep that way. It might be a tough couple days but you’ll appreciate it when you get to sleep better.

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Put a stop to co-sleeping, it’s never a good idea to start, as it becomes a battle to stop

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I’d stop co sleeping with the both of them. Separate rooms and beds. I’d be way too exhausted for life if I did this.

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