My 4-month-old cries when his dad holds him: Advice?

My four-month-old son screams when his das holds him, he literally goes red in the face and cries so much he makes no sound I have to take him off his father, and he instantly stops I know babies prefer their mother as its instinct, but my son laughs and smiles for everyone but his father he’s just not interested at all looking for advice or answers as to what I can do to help my son?

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Probably feels your husband’s tension.

more skin to skin with dad maybe?

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I know he cries for it but have dad do skin to skin contact after bath it will be a bit of a scream fest the first couple times but after 3 or 4 he wont cry anymore my now toddler was the same way

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It could be the soap or cologne hes using

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We have had this happen, it just takes patience and understanding. Your little one will get there if the dad is persistent.

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As he have a beard or a hat both my girls were terrified of beards and hats anybody that had one could not even get near them

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Maybe have him wear one of your shirts that smell like you when hes holding him?

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It will pass…my daughter didn’t like her dad for the 1st year

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Lay a shirt you just wore on his chest first. And maybe skip any cologne

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Have a cuddle all three of you until he’s comfortable enough to start interacting with Dad more. Poor Dad, he must be heartbroken but it’s just what some babies do so reassure him not to take it personally. You’re obviously just a super Mummy and baby doesn’t want to leave you x

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Is dad uneasy with babies? He may feel dad’s nervous energy. My 2 youngest screamed like crazy when their sperm donor held them. They sensed his narcissism. To this day they can’t stand to even see his face.

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I agree with having him have one of your shirts that you have worn without washing while he holds baby. Skin to skin. Also have the father get his scent on something like a sheet that the baby uses in bed. Will help baby get more comfortable with daddy’s scent. My babies both were in NICU and that’s what they did with our scent when we couldn’t be there.

Try skin to skin or have dad wear one of your worn shirts.

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Still currently dealing with this my son is 14 months old. When he was a baby he would wake up screaming if he even heard his voice on the phone. He’s still not super comfortable with him and if anyone else is around he will go to anyone but him. I’d like to say it gets easier but it hasn’t for us. Which he doesn’t see his dad every day either.

Does dad wear glasses, a hat, have beard??? .sometimes babies have cried with my husband but if he takes glasses off or maybe his hat they will stop??? Other than that just try to keep introducing dad and giving them time together as much as possible …some men work out and arent as close to baby as mom is, may just need more bonding time…

It will pass! All of my kids were like this as babies. Even with other people. They just loved their mama!

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My granddaughter would do the same. Unfortunately before she was born the parents would have terrible fights. I guess since they hear and feel what mom feels baby reacts after being born to what it remembers. I’m not saying this is your situation but it was for us. Gdaugher is 13 now and she loves her daddy dearly. P.s. dad is a great dad but terrible husband material right Jessica N Carlos Segarra?

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My son cried around anyone that wasn’t me for close to the first year! My other babies were not like that. He’s fine now. Lol good luck mom!

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Stop taking him off dad. They need to learn

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