My 4-year-old doesn't listen: Advice?

Help!! my four yo will not listen! I have done timeouts… corner… putting him in his room. Everything I could think of, and he won’t stop! He does whatever he wants. Nothing works! He has been tested for ADHD/add, and they say its normal. But I have never had this problem. Somebody, please give me advice. It doesn’t matter how many times I scold him or put him in the corner. It does not work. What else can I do!?

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Spank his bottom! He’s old enough to know.

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Take away
all toys
No electronics
that includes tv.

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I feel like this is very normal. My daughter did this to and as she gets closer to 5 years old she is starting to straighten up. I’ve some how implemented counting to 5 even with my 12 year old. It just started working one day.

Sometimes kids are just wild 🤷 my 6yo was the same way from toddler-hood till now. He is hard headed and just likes to learn things the hard way. My other children time-outs have been effected. With my 6yo, i have found out having converstations on why what he did wasn’t a good idea and what could have happened if i didn’t step in seems to be working. Constant reminders.

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Consistency is key. You say I’ve tried everything. Try one thing everytime without fail. My 8 year old does time out like hes in the military because I spent weeks showing him when he breaks the rules that is the consequence. Hes no different than your kid. You have to stand your ground.

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Get a switch. You don’t have to hurt him. Get his attention. You may have to use it twice and then it should all be good

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My kiddo is also 4 and is the same way. He’s been diagnosed with ADHD.

We count to 3 and if she doesn’t listen listen she gets a swat on the bottom, if it still continues after she gets her iPad taken away for the remainder of the day

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Good old fashion butt whoopin will set him straight! Tell him if he acts up again he will get it again and get things he love taken away… just make sure u follow through with what u say… nip it in the ass now or will get wrost as he gets older

Yell. Loud. W your stern voice. Get in their face. Make em know you mean business. You’re the parent.

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make it about the child not the behavior ask how there feeling give them 4 min of your busy attention have a couple moments of what have you done today. whats got your mind racing can we talk

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get a note pad and a crayon ask for photos of what’s in the child’s head… try to focus on the mood. no blaming just facts of understanding the moment

Take things away…stay consistant every time or they know they have you. Make sure they know youbr the boss not them
Do not argue with them. You do not have to justify punishment other than this is what you did wrong so now this is happening. That’s it…do not argue…if you argue they know they have you. Your child is still young but you still need to make sure they know you r boss not them. Period. If you have to smack their bottom so be it. Im not talking beating their ass. Do it hard enough to hurt amd scare them a little but dont go to far. They …again…need to know you r in charge…not them.

. could be the shoes too

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He is doing it to get attention negative or positive its attention. Ignore the fact he doesnt listen and treat him amazing when he does LISTEN, if hes not reacting to anything you are doing then start rewarding for what you want him to do. My ADHD sone THRIVES on pleasing. He was a whiner when he didnt get what he wanted, hes 5, his 3 yr old sister would listen and pickup toys and get a snack and even though the 5 yr old would throw a fit he eventually learned that hey they respom way better when I listen.

Start positive reactuons instead of bad, otherwise they will eventually think its ok to behave when essentially it’s not.

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Is the father around? Some times takes another parent or guardian to help you assist in the disciplining because you Maybe giving mix messages. If he attends a school or childcare talk to the teacgers, reach out to an expert, read a book. You haven’t given everything a try, so don’t give up. Also don’t forget to hug your child sometimes all they are reaching out for is love. if you were screaming then things calm down and he is doing the right thing give him a heart felt hug and tell him he is a good boy for doing the things he does do right. Have more conversations before they escalate to a screaming match or naughty corner.

Consistency, redirection, incentives, take away a, use I language, explain at kid level, repeat, repeat! Be firm, no empty threats cause kids catch on

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Years ago my son was like this. He claimed he couldnt hear but had tubes in his ears so we went back to his ent and the dr told me he could hear but he ask me what he liked to eat. Well he wanted zeigler parti pups and brownies. These were his favorites. He told me he was suffering from Red 40. He told me to take away everything with red 40. He said the first two weeks would be hard but after that I would see a hughes difference. Well it worked. Google Red 40 and just see what all has that dye in it almost everything you eat and drink ( kool aid, kid drinks also shampoo,bodywash , etc. you name it and it has red 40. There are a couple of other dyes that cause kids to misbehave but red 40 is the worse. He told me that alot of times kids are labeled add , adhd, etc when its nothing but what kids are consuming said teachers and parents would rather give the kids a pill than to get to the bottom of what is causing them to misbehave. All I know is that it worked for my son and I always tell people about this when asked like you are doing. So please just give this a try it wont hurt to try it to see if it works.

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Treasure box!! Worked for my daughter. she was the same way that age. Also kept track in a journal of daily activities of what could trigger act outs (snacks she ate, activites she did, nap, etc) she always wanted to know what was next.