"My four-year-old son has started looking up inappropriate videos on YouTube.
He’ll do the talk to text and say ‘people showing their butts’ or ‘baby in mommy’s belly.’ He knows it’s wrong because when I catch him he jumps and starts apologizing over and over.
We’ve told him those things are not for kids. And before you ask, he is literally never out of my sight. We basically never leave the house due to COVID. I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and if anyone has any advice. Thank you!"
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“Why does a 4 yr old have a device and internet access?!?! Jeez try entertaining your kid - read him a storybook, take him outdoors, teach him colors and numbers.”
“I would hesitate to tell a 4-year-old that being curious about what butts look like or babies in bellies is “bad”. I think kids are curious. Maybe invest in some relevant age-appropriate books about those subjects and limit access to computers to time intentional activities like a movie or a game. I’m not sure surfing the internet is a super great idea for a 4-year-old.”
“How about you watch your kid while they play with the internet or don’t let them play at all. Simple. I honestly can’t believe it’s a hard choice for you to make. Be a bloody responsible parent and don’t rely on the internet to raise your kid”
“#1 I agree he is too young for the internet. Period. But #2, find an age-appropriate video to explain these things to him. He is obviously curious and the more you push aside or deny him and answer, the more he is going to try to get one without you there to guide him.”
“Well first don’t shame him or he will always hide things from you because you overreact. He’s curious. He’s not being bad or inappropriate.”
“Really not that inappropriate. Butts are funny and he’s clearly curious about babies in mommies’ tummies. Maybe ask why they like watching that stuff. But 4 is young to have control of what they are wanting to watch.”
“I don’t see what he is looking up his bad. I don’t see how what he looked up was inappropriate.”
“Nothing you said here is inappropriate. Relax before you give him an unhealthy complex about butts and pregnant women.”
“Yeah, quit giving your four old access to youtube. My 9- and 11-year-olds only have access to youtube kids.”
“Sounds like a kid. Maybe try explaining things to him. Babies in mommy’s belly are way different than people showing butts though. One sounds like a kid trying to be funny, explain why it’s not. The other sounds like a genuine interest in pregnancy and where babies come from. Explain it to them.”
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