My 4-year-old is having accidents: Advice?

My daughter, who turns 4 in January, keeps having “accidents” daily. I say “accidents” because we think she just doesn’t want to get up and go. I get this is common in kids when they’re too busy playing, but it’s only at home, not when she’s at her preschool. Could this also maybe be from her newish baby sister? She just turned one, so it’s not like she’s a newborn needing attention 24/7, and they get along. I do remind her during the day to go to the bathroom if she needs to go. She has now developed a rash all around her where her underwear line is because she doesn’t tell me when she pees herself. I have diaper cream on her 24/7 and have been doing the wiping for her. She wears a pull-up at night, but we can’t do it during the day because then she will purposely pee herself. She doesn’t complain of pain when she goes, so I don’t believe it would be an infection. I do have an appointment for her, but I’d like to hear from other moms what worked for them.

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same with my 4 year old before we are in and out emergencies due to heas bumps

Set an alarm or a reminder to get her in the habit of going throughout the day at home.

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They forget …just be patient and reward her for going on the potty frequently.

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My 3 1/2 year old is like this. At daycare she’s great and goes potty but when she gets home I have to be on her to use the potty. She’s getting better! Now just have to work on night time ugh! Good luck

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when i was little i couldnt tell i had to go till i was at that ohh noo i cant make it point… maybe that? but id still her her checked for infection

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My kiddo is almost 5 and I just have have to make her go and go with her. She has done this for at least a year now and I just get tired of argument.
So we just both go together.

Try a staying dry reward program… no punishments for accidents… pick something she really wants as a big prize for staying dry all week but do little daily prizes…

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Pick her up and take her to the bathroom every 30 minutes. She will learn real quick to stop when you keep taking her to the bathroom cause she isn’t going to want to go to the bathroom every 30 minutes

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I know for a fact that I used to when i was her age, only at home, until i was like 6. I was always playing too hard to stop.

When they are ready they are ready. Is she waking up in a dry pull-up?

My daughter was the same way we had her set up with a urinalysis and had ultrasounds done. Found out she was backed bad and it was causing pressure on her bladder.

I’d get her checked for irritated bladder or maybe a UTI.
Also, if you get mad at them they can revert there potty training.

I would make her go in every hour to 2hrs my son was same until he realized peeing his pants takes up more time than going in toilet

It could be many things. She could be busy, it could be because you have another child, she could have an infection, she could have been sexually assaulted.

There’s a Daniel Tiger potty training episode on PBS that reminds kids to stop what they’re doing to go potty. It was wonderful with my four year old.

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Following, having the same issue

My 5 year old girl has been doing this since her sister was born. Driving me nuts. Her sisters like 16month and we’re still having issues

Retrain her take her every 30 min . My daughter had this happen and from reading up it’s a common thing I guess .

It could possibly be the new baby sitter. I only say that, because our daughter is the same age and when family came into town that she hadn’t been around before, all of a sudden she started having accidents. I think she was just nervous or didn’t want to be around them to get up and go potty (she’s a very shy kid) but once she realized they were family and got used to everyone it stopped happening. Like I said I think she was just shy/nervous and was really just doing it on “accident”. Try to get her used to the baby sitter and have the sitter help you with potty training so your kid knows she’s going be around her and to not be afraid.