My 5-year-old is struggling to sleep at night: Advice?

Hello, I have a question. I have a five-year-old son, and no matter what I try, he will not sleep in his bed all night. He will go to bed in his room just fine at bedtime. Between 2&5 am, he will wake up and just come lay in my room. I’ve tried everything I can do to get him to stop. Even children’s melatonin. It’s been going on for the last two months. He tells me he’s afraid of the dark and that he hears and sees snakes on his walls. What should I do?

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night light? White Noise Machine?

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Keep him close to you he’s could be telling you something else…let him he’ll grow out of it soon

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Oh man! My 3 yr old does the same thing, minus the snakes… for the life of me I can’t figure out why he gets up & comes in my bed every night!

I got my daughter a mood sensitive night light. Every time she moves it lights up her while room and when she falls back asleep or stops moving it dims itself. Its helped a lot with her sleeping in her room now. And since the holidays are here my husband bought a globe that lights up and spins so that helps keep her distracted while she falls asleep

It could be something more serious he is not talking about. Maybe anxiety, so may hurt or be hurting him(God forbid), might be getting bullied. My daughter does this from time to time. It’s her anxiety. Sometimes really sitting and talking to your kids help. Or getting professional help.

I feel ya, my daughter did the same till she was 12. I tried everything but in the end it went by so fast… she 19 now

Does he take the melatonin still at night that could be it Ik of some kids it made them see things that wasn’t there

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Melatonin isn’t always great. Your body can get used to it and then your body doesn’t produce it naturally

Children have very active imaginations try a night light if not go to his pediatrician it may.help

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Sage his room with him and tell him we are telling all the snakes to leave your room then open a window and let the smoke go out the window. Go all around the room then back to the open window with the burning sage. Then under the bed all through the room making sure he gets to be apart of getting rid of them all the places they could hide during the day; right out the window. He gets to be in control of getting rid of the bad things that show up in his Tim at night. Make sure that you have a saying that includes his name and telling the snakes to leave and not come back.

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Your home may be Haunted, get someone to come to your home to see if thats the cause.

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Sound’s terrifying for him… let him in your room if he is feeling scared … I used to always let my son in with me if he had a nightmare or was scared, he’s 16 now and thriving at life.

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Is the child on medication of sorts? If so., have the medication check and understand the side effects. A child response to medication is more acute than for adults. A child find it hard to conceptualize things that happen to them in terms that we understand. Serious question: do you know if the child has been sexually abused?? Seriously. Children cannot put such things in compartments Of understanding. From a religious point of view , have a matured season Christian minister pray for the child in person. Take note of any issues you have had where the child was affected. Children acts like a sponge and A reflection of the temperature of the house and your relationships. Ask the right questions and be open to the unexplainable. Listen to what the child says and why. Ask the child questions and listen with judgement. You may get insight. If the child is not too old . Let the child stay with you til he matter is resolved . Seek family and children counseling. God bless.

I would try taking him to the doctor if you haven’t already because they can run some tests to try and figure out what the problem could be

My daughter was an extremely light/restless sleeper. My pediatrician recommended a small aquarium in her room. If she woke there was light and the fish swimming seemed to calm her. I would also suggest you listen to and carefully observe your child and those around him. Sometimes changes in behavior like this are masking other issues. These can be real or imagined. If it continues or worsens consult your pediatrician. Good luck!

He may be seeing reflections of tree limbs and leaves from a street light shining through them if you have trees close to your house. Other than that tell him he has the authority to tell things to get out of his space. I dont know if you are of Christian faith but tell him to use Jesus name and tell whatever is there to go away. I wouldnt just dismiss his fear though. Sometimes that’s the way kids let you know something isn’t right.

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Pistachios, naturally occurring melatonin.

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I know this may sound weird but it sometimes works. Tell him the scary things that he’s seeing is protecting him. Those “monsters” are there to protect him while he sleeps they’re scaring off the bad guys/keeping away nightmares.

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My lil one did that for a while too. I got him a spray bottle and decorated it with cute monsters on it. Labled it “Monsters be gone.” So at night time before we would go to sleep we would say our prayers and i would say a special prayers covering him with protection. Then he would sray his spray under the bed and places he thought the monsters hid. Left a night light on and he was good. If he woke up scared we would repeat the routine. Worked like a charm. Then last year we got a little dog that sleeps in the boys room in her little crate, now the boys don’t get scared of anything and I sleep well knowing if anything she feels anything she barks.