My 6-year-old complains about everything: Advice?

Hey, ladies, so I have a question. My daughter is almost six and loves to complain, and it used to only be once in a while, but now it is constantly. And about literally anything! I don’t even know how to explain it. For example, it will be bath time, and she will complain and fuss about not wanting to take a bath, and eventually, I give in because I’m not going to hold her down in the tub then I get her ready for bed and lay her down then she complains that she didn’t get a bath. And it’s not a quick thing she goes on and on for hours at a time, and I’m at my end I’ve tried everything. She is the only child that lives in the home. Her brother and sister live with family but visit often. She has a ton of toys electronics and outside toys, and I know she’s spoiled lol, but I’m wondering if other parents have gone this and how to break the habit? I have a migraine at the end of every day because from the second she wakes up till she goes to sleep, she doesn’t stop talking/wining, and 90% of it is complaining. I’m just an exhausted mama looking for answers lol

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Ask her to stop what she is saying and ask her to name something she’s grateful for.
Also you can ask her for ways to resolve her complaints…let her try to solve it rather than putting it all on you.

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Take away electronics if she’s not doing as she’s told. When she refuses a bath, tell her that she has one chance to take the bath then she’ll lose her tablet, TV, phone, what have you. Then FOLLOW THROUGH. Put her to bed and stick to your guns. Add days to her punishment for complaining.

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Tell her you dont understand whiny talk and that you will not listen to her complaining and ignore her when she does it, or you can see if she knows how to resolve the issue shes complaining about and stop caving on her she is used to you giving in

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Selective hearing works for me lol

Stop giving an option for necessary things like a bath.
When it is optional give her 2 options that you are okay with either way.
When she complains about something say okay, you can be thankful and we can go on with our day or you can keep complaining and we are taking away tablet, TV time, park trip etc whatever it is.

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Start complaining as well. Complain about the weather, raise in taxes, your weight, how messy the house is, politics, neighbours, why she won’t take a bath ans maybe or may make her stop.

So I’m a Mom or 3 girls… ages 15, 13 and 8 and I hate to tell you this but it only gets worse. My youngest is probably the worst with her tantrums. If she doesn’t want to take a bath, there is no compromise with bath time. You give her 2 options, she can take a bath now or you can set a timer for 5 minutes. Get a kitchen timer and start using it for everything. Let her feel like she is in control by giving her options and letting her decide. Good luck!

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your the parent take back your title your the boss life is doing lots of things she wont wanna do

Omg am I going through this right now and thought the same thing today!!! I’m so over it …

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Get a bit stricter and tell her to stop the whinning! Have her do small chores also. Let her know she has no reason to complain & if she’s unsatisfied take away her items. My lil one started saying that immediately that stoppedn the 2nd time I told him if he stated that, his items would be taken away so that he’d really be bored. Sorry, tantrums aren’t allowed in my hm & as a parent I don’t ask; I tell my children what they will do around my hm. You’re the parent not vice versa.

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Establish a schedule, post on a dry erase or some other form. Stick to schedule, reward good behavior and take away for bad behavior

I would stop giving her options on stuff that IS/NEEDS to happen and tell her that is what she is doing. Only give her two options for things you’d be okay with… such as maybe picking her clothes out. You are the parent, not her. I’d start taking her electronics and other toys away.

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I just don’t put up with it. Don’t talk to her until she can talk to u respectfully. Ya better cut it out now or else it will only get worse.

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My sisters grandkids used to complain all the time and say how things weren’t fair. She made them run laps around the house and eventually they quit

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Give her time limit on what time each thing is . Like in 30 min you have to be in the tub.

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Remember: Children learn what they live❤

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She’s testing her limits with you. Set a boundary and routine and stay with it. My 5 year old has been doing this for years and I never wanted to be that parent that had to enforce but if you let her run the show… thats exactly what will be happening and you’ll become exhausted

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I told mine if they didn’t stop there complaining I would give them somthing to complain about and if they didn’t stop I smacked there ass it only took one time never did it again

If you stand yourground as her parent. She’ll see the complaining isn’t working. She knows that’s your weakness.

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