My 6-year-old hasn't wanted to go back to school since break: Advice?

I have a six-year-old boy, an only child. His father and I separated three years ago; I now live with my current partner, and just last year, we moved an hour away from my son’s dad’s house. His father still sees him three days of the week(which I think is a lot) Just giving a background story So my son is in 1st grade started the school year normally in August, but ever since they had their winter break (two weeks), he has been struggling to go back to school. He cries and gets so anxious with just the thought of school. He bites his nails doesn’t give a reason for not wanting to go. It doesn’t seem like he has a bullying problem either. He literally will not budge from his car seat when I attempt to take him. I’ve tried to remove him forcefully, but don’t try too hard because I don’t want CPS called on me. Did any of you experience this? Any suggestions?

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Maybe try talking to his teacher to see if anything is going on

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I had this problem, and my child was being bullied. The teachers didn’t do anything about it, so I changed his class. He loves school now and is mad if he’s sick and can’t go

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I experienced this with 2 of the 3 I have…for my boys it was all a matter of getting them back into the groove of school again. If it continues I would make an appointment for him. There may be something that is causing him anxiety that he doesn’t understand yet due to his age.

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Go with him tell him lets see ur friends how is school try to findout from him wat goes on there from daily activities to wat he eats just to break the ice so he feels comfortable

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Behavioral health. They are great for getting kids to open up.

I would probe some more both your son and teacher… There has to be something causing him not to want to go …

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I am a school nurse. My suggestion is to meet with teacher, administrators and a school councelor, social worker or psychologist so you can see if maybe something happened that you don’t know about and maybe they will have a good idea to get him into school without added trauma to him. Good luck momma!

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CPS will be called by the principal of the school my kids go if they miss so many days.

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I would take a day to go in and sit in his class the whole day and see what is going on

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I see alot of people saying its him. Behavioral and getting back in the groove, ect. I had this problem and it was the teacher herself! Not saying it is always the teacher but I would definitely check up on it. The teachers now days aren’t the best. Given there are a few but most nowadays are not that great.

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Get the school guidance. Counselor to help.

Sometimes it’s the teacher. Sometimes it’s the kid. Every time we had a teacher my son didn’t jive with, or vice versa it was like pulling teeth. But when he got good teachers going was no problem.

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Maybe speak to the school counselor, maybe they can talk to him and see if there is some underlying issues that can be resolved. He may be anxious about a subject he’s struggling with, could feel insecure about something but not know how to verbalize. Hope it’s something little that can be fixed.

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My niece had the hardest time! She cried everyday with separation anxiety! It was so sad but my sister had to make her go!! After about the middle mark of school she was good! It was a very long hard sad road!!

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some schools have drs to help check in to it !

Have a talk with the teacher they have been through this more then the rest of us. You & her May he able to come up with a plan to get back on track .

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Talk to the school counselor

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He could be getting bullied around.i would also talk to his teacher

I think it all has to do with you separating from his dad ask his dad to step up and take him to school if he can

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