My 6-year-old nephew has been having accidents: Advice?

Anyway, I have my almost six-year-old nephew daily. His dad brings him to my house in the mornings, and I take him to school. I also pick him up from school. Almost always, after I pick him up from school, he poops himself. He holds it all day during school but messes his pants before we even get home. My sister, his mom, doesn’t see him very often. He primarily stays with his dad and me. I’m wondering if he’s having accidents because he’s upset that he doesn’t see him, mom…? I don’t know how to break him of this… help.

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Sounds like that for sure could be an issue. Maybe talk to school and see if they can recommend someone he can talk with. <3

Check out encopresis. My son gets every year about the sane time.

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Or…he doesn’t feel comfortable going to the bathroom at school. They don’t get enough time. Had an issue with my nephew…the teacher didnt give them enough time. There was a line waiting to go.

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I know this sounds crazy but I have a nephew that doesn’t feel comfortable doing his business only at home

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His little body Proably cant hold it in any longer. Could you tale him to the restroom right away at school when u pick him up?

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You can’t break him of this.

I don’t know if you want to try this but…have a chat with regarding this problem of HIS that you’d like to help him with. Ask him if he’d like some help solving his problem. Give him an opportunity to tell you what he thinks might solve it. If you have an SUV or minivan you could put a bucket lined with a contractors plastic bag and pack wipes. If he doesn’t think he can make it to the house, pull over and let him go in the bucket. Reward him every day he doesn’t go in his pants, with a bigger reward for making it a whole week. Have him help decide what the rewards are.

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Yeah that’s what im thinking too he can’t go at school so he holds it all day,I think I would go to his class and get him and take him to the restroom before you leave

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He poops his pants because he doesn’t want to go at school, maybe? Uncomfortable with public restrooms?

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See if you can’t change his poop schedule. Perhaps in the morning when he is dropped off to you.

Some kids may not feel comfortable pooping at school. It could be a time thing with the teachers. Ask him as soon as you pick him up from school.

My 6 year old gets so involved in activities that he sometimes forgets to go too.

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Honestly, it sounds like he just doesn’t want to go at school, but can’t quite make it home after holding it in. I would say it has nothing to do with not seeing the mother if this is his regular routine between your house and his dad.

Try taking him to the doctor, there may be an issue with his intestines or something else.

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Yes most likely the case is because he misses his mom. Ive been having the same issue with my 4yr old because his baby brother just arrived. Patience and just a lot of encouragement.

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I would talk to his pedi. These accidents can come from many things. Also holding it in can be harmful

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Could be just that he dont like going in public places… Take like 20 mon before he leaves the house to give him a chance.

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My 7yo niece goes in her pants cause the flush sound is too loud for her, Idk if that’ll help

I agree with most of these comments! It’s easier to use a public bathroom when it’s just pee but, for some reason some people need more privacy and time when it comes to going #2.
And we ALL know how it feels like to hold it in, whether it be pee or poop, and getting close to home and the pressure intensifies to have to go lol. Poor kid. Have him try to use the bathroom when he wakes up. Even if he doesn’t feel like he needs to go, still have him sit on the toilet for a bit. Try it every morning to reset his bowel routine.

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If it happens the same time everyday make sure he’s in the bathroom at that time.
Even if that means him using the school bathroom with you outside to stall.

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I’m a grown woman and won’t poo in public bathrooms, rarely even pee in them. It gives me anxiety bad! For one the cleanliness of them but also people hearing me go. Could be many things but some people are just embarrassed to poo in a public setting.