My 7 year old keeps having accidents: Advice?

I have a seven-year-old daughter & we are doing online schooling for first grade. She keeps “accidentally” pooping in her panties, but she pees in the toilet. The past two weeks have been rough. Talking to her as a friend does no good. Yelling at her doesn’t phase her. We know it is not diarrhea; she specifically told us that she doesn’t want to stop playing with siblings to go poop. I have thrown away numerous pairs of panties because, honestly, they are destroyed to the point that I’m not putting them in my brand new washer. Please help.

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Maybe make a point of toilet breaks in between play x or not allowed to play till she learns to come in to poo x

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Is she autistic? Or mentally delayed?

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No advice but my 6y old does the same! Except she pees too bc “ I was watching tv, I was playing” so it’s not accidents. We have tried everything including putting her back in a diaper and she just said “I like the diaper”

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Make her clean herself up Get an old bucket make her wash out her own panties to the point they are clean enough to wash. Use cold water for her to clean herself up. Don’t make it pleasant. Actions ( or lack there of) have consequences Unless she is delayed or doesnt have a medical condition she can learn to go to the toilet

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Following, same problem, with 9 yo, she’ll be 2 ft from the bathroom and do this…

Have you tried making her clean her undies and clean herself that might stop it

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Make her wear diapers. It will hurt her esteem and she won’t want to, so maybe she will stop with the “accidents” just to stay out of them. Worked on me when I was 5 with a bed wetting problem and it worked on my “big” girl who is 3, she didn’t want diapers again like a “baby” and it actually stopped her from pooping her pants anymore.

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Set bathroom breaks when the kids are playing.

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I would try what someone else said. Make potty break times during play time. Or make going potty a game of some kind?

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My son went through a phase where he didn’t want to stop playing to go to the bathroom also right after he turned 6 years old. I had to ground him from his favorite activities and tell him that if he wanted to ever be able to do those things again that he would need to stop being lazy

Talk to her. Have her talk to the Dr. It could be the stress of quarantine or the disruption in schedule.

Not everything has to be punished out of kids…

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Well yelling at her won’t help! Being like I’m not putting them in my brand new washer won’t help either! Firstly it’s a washer lol
Secondly make her clean it up should make her stop doing it

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I would buy a visual timer and set it for 30 minutes and every 30 minutes when it dings she needs to go potty. It will remind you and it gives her something visual to look up and see. There are free apps or you can buy one on Amazon.

She should see a dr to rule out any medical issues she may be having.

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Sounds to me she is having difficulty wanting to grow up. :face_with_monocle::grimacing:

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I would make her a potty schedule even when she isn’t playing with her siblings. Use incentives when she has pooped on the potty! Let her know there are consequences when she does poop in her pants. For example: taking away part of play time.

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I would take her to a therapist just in case there is something else going on :confused:

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I would assume it’s laziness I would change everything diet her clothes take things away judge me if you want I would even giver mirlax if she wanted to poop on herself that bad make it worth her while it doesn’t cause problems later I have a child on it daily and she will tell me if she needs it or not and she’s been in it since 4-5

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Shes a lil old for that maybe something emotionally going on??

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