My 8-year-old son has behavior issues: Advice?

My eight-year-old son is having some behavior issues…and I feel like it’s getting worse. He is an awesome student…very smart and one of the top students in his class. He has a very big heart and loves helping others. But he has a bad temper…and when he’s mad…he doesn’t care about nothing or no one. He will lie right to our face even if we saw him do it. He talks back n is very rude. He got banned from playing with some of his friends cuz he’s mean n bossy…especially if things don’t go his way. You would think by this behavior that I’m a shitty mom and don’t discipline my son. But this is not the case AT ALL!! I’m a very strict mom with rules. Always have been. I have grounded him… He took things away from him…made him write apologetic letters. And even spanked him. Yes…I do spank…not beat my kids. I’ve tried talking to him. And it seems like nothing is working. I love him dearly n I make sure he knows it. I’m just worried that he’ll never grow out of it n becomes an angry teenager or man.

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My daughter is 8 and was like that too , it took a lot of time and groundings and loosing out on things. Finally after not giving her attention when she had a freak out and just ignoring her bad behaviour she wasn’t getting the reaction she was excepting and grew out of it. Hope it gets better mama xo

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Try therapy something is making him have anger issues that he seems to not care to try to control. Sometimes just talking to someone else helps.

Maybe therapy might help. Might grow out of it. I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. It’s just the younger generation

Sounds like mine. Great kid with a horrible and stubborn attitude. My mom(very wise woman who raised two already) said it’s hormones. They are changing and so are their minds. It’s very difficult but it’s part of them growing up. He’s broken my heart a few times with some of the things he does. Hang in there momma.

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It sounds like a phase all kids go through.

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This is my 9 year old to a T!! He’s been talked with a number of times and that didn’t work so I finally took everything away from him and he got his things back when I decided his behavior had changed! He went without for weeks! His attitude and temper changed after about a week of having nothing to do.

Serious questions - Does he snore? Does he sleep with his mouth open? Does he mouth breath during the day?
If you answer yes t one or more seen an Ear, Nose and Throat doctor asap!! My son is all of these and not getting sleep at night we seen an ENT and his tonsils are nearly touching. Not receiving a good nights sleep will cause behavioral issues. Seriously private message me I can send you the info I got from our ENT it’s jaw dropping!

Could just be his personality or could be ODD (oppositional defiant disorder)

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He needs anger management.

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Take him to a child’s psychiatrist and have bim evaluated. To me it sounds like ODD maybe ADHD.

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Mine also does great in school straight A student but she can be so impulsive and aggressive …she was diagnosed with ADHD …one of the questions the doc asked was if she was aggressive … Kids with ADHD usually also have Oppositional defiant disorder … I tried everything with her but now that I know what’s wrong I deal with it differently I have more patience and understanding…

Write to Dr Phil. He’ll send him to a ranch for treatment

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My son had a horrible temper. When I’m preschool, he would push chairs at people. And even bit a teacher’s aide. In kinder, he was sent to the principal’s office twice. In kind, he still had behavior issues with any teacher other than the one regular teacher. Second grade, he was sent in the hall multiple times and had some anger issues. In third grade, last year, he had no problems. Now, he is 10 and in 4th grade. His teacher never would have ever guessed he had any behavior problems. So hopefully he will grow out of it. I also thought maybe I had done something wrong. But, we have 4 kids, who are all different. The only other kid with some behavior issues is my now 8yr old. But she is totally fine at school. And newly diagnosed with ADHD.

Stay on his ass momma, you are doing right by holding him accountable for ALL of his bad behaviors thats what kids do push their limits.

Gentle Parents Unite great group. Spanking and being strict sometimes is not the answer to certain behaviors.
Disciple doesn’t mean punishment. Maybe he is strict because that is what he is learning at home.

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My son is the same way! He says it’s just hard to be good or not talk back. He’s just lazy and doesn’t put forth the effort needed if he doesn’t want to. He is amazing in school and with stuff and people he likes. It is hard. We started doing push ups, wall squats, holding books. Because time outside, writing sentences, and taking things away just seemed to lose its value after a couple times.

It’s a phase, all kids seem to go through it, for some it’s a big change in school or life, they’re understanding a lot more about life then they used to! Stop assuming that all kids that are in moods have a disorder or need to go to therapy! Parents have bad days too, kids are allowed to have their days, more so then adults cause they’re still learning and figuring things out! my kid is the EXACT same way, but I know for a fact he DOES NOT need therapy, he needs me to have patience with him; and trust me I’m the exact same mom as the mom that wrote this! They need discipline but they also need to be able to figure things out on their own, don’t give into their tantrums but don’t let them get away with everything, it’s a really hard time to be a mom cause no matter what you do everyone has a different opinion and everyone seems to judge you no matter what you do! Just keep working with the school and keep doing your mom thing! I started a behaviour chart which is actually working, it gives him incentive to actually try harder at school and it works wonders!!!

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My oldest did this too. I really think it’s a phase. 8 and 9 were really difficult. Hes 12 now, and has learned to control it better. It got much better at 10. Just stay consistent.

Scared straight program?

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