My 8-year-old treats me badly: Advice?

So Moms, I am a mother of 6 beautiful babies. My oldest just turned 8 at the beginning of the month and he’s been giving me attitude for about 3 months now. I have spanked his butt, put him in time out and took his tablet away from me and made him stop watching WWE(which he loves) but he treats me bad so he is starting to show his little sister how to treat me too!!! What do I do m

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He would get no tv and nothing fun, he could read a book until he learns how to properly treat you!

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They see someone else treating you this way?

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I wouldn’t be nice to someone who hit me either.

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U should try family therapy

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Spankings are not the problem. My opinion but I believe it to be pretty accurate. :woman_shrugging:t3:
Start grounding him maybe. That way it’s days at a time and not just hours or a day.

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Wheres the father? Cant he talk to him?

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It’s called lickens!

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Hitting him will absolutely not make him nicer to you.

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Get on his level. Talk to him. Ask him why he’s angry. Maybe he feels left out right now. Try making time with just him. It’ll work out.

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Make him go do work for free around the neighborhood and family. Put him to work at home. Make him want to behave or he’ll be busy keeping himself busy so he behaves

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Every kid responds differently to correction. Involve a professional that can guide you on possible obstacles, behavior issues, etc.

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Sometimes kids act the worse when they need the most love, maybe he is needing a little extra attention from you since he’s the oldest. I am by no means saying he should be treating you bad bc that’s unacceptable and should be corrected but maybe try talking to him about how he’s feeling and ask why he thinks it’s acceptable to treat you badly and spend a little extra one on one time with him and see if that helps. Parenting is really hard so don’t beat yourself up about it, you just have to find out what the underlined issue is an address it. Good luck😊

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Give him some individual attention. U have 5 other kids who’s younger and he probably feels jealous and left out.

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First o would correct his behavior quickly with things such as we dnt don’t talk like that to mommy, your being ugly and then put him in time out or send to bed. My 7 yr old gets into these moods and he is very angry towards me. I tell him I will not accept that behavior in my house , go to your room until you can be nice AND BE CONSISTENT WITH IT EVERYTIME. He will learn quickly. But i I have also spanked his butt for just being awful towards me and his sister, then got sent to his Room until i I said otherwise. He is now banned from video games, you tube, and can only watch tv with someone else in the room. Good luck mom

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Maybe he needs more one on one time, considering he shares you with 5 other kids. Maybe try to determine the root of the problem and why he’s starting giving attitude, instead of hitting him.

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Maybe try talking to him to see where this anger for you is coming from and also pointing out when hes good and treating him for good deeds but also stick to your punishments when he isnt be consistent which can be hard with so many little ones

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Why did you hit him??? My mother use to scream and hit me. I hated it and I vowed I would never do that to my kids. Talk to him take him out just you and him. I use to do that with each of my sons just mum and son time. But don’t hit him that will mess him up when he gets older talk to him.

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i will prYer for you alk

Maybe something else is bothering him? 8 is still young

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