My 9-year-old is a picky eater: Any advice on getting her to try new things?

Can I get some advice? My oldest child, who is 9, is such a picky eater. She won’t eat simple things like hot dogs, eggs, pepperoni pizza, sausage, etc… slot of the time she says she doesn’t like it before she eats something. I can’t get her to try new things. I could not tell her what something is in the hope she will try, and that doesn’t work. I am not going to make her special food just because she is picky. We have told her she can’t say she doesn’t like unless she has tried it. She sees me and the rest of the family eat it — any advice on how to get her to try new things.

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I had a one bite rule…she found out she like alot more things

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It helps my step son if we relate it to something he does like or change it a bit. Idk the kid likes sandwiches. We used to put like hamburger helper in between bread and he would eat it.

I was raised if you dont eat it you get nothing else . No desert . I know some people may frown on this rule now and days but I learned to cover things I didn’t like with mustard and eat it. I still do it to this day

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My son was diagnosed with ARFID. Your daughter sounds a lot like my son who is 10 and 54lbs. It took years of feeding therapy and having to go to an eating disorder clinic to get this diagnosis. It’s a struggle and from my experience its a lot of trial and error and patience. Not saying that is what she has,but researching it might help with ways to get her to try new things. Try one bite or as the therapist did touch to lips and then bite. He is far from cured and may never be.

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My 9 year old is a picky eater. She is just now starting to try new things. But even if it’s something she says tastes good we can’t get her to actually eat it. She will come around. We do the one bite she has to swollow it not just chew and spit out. She also has something to drink if she doesn’t like it and needs to wash it down. I also found if we push it she will just shut down. We found out she couldn’t really see or hear when she was 4. We were told that she could possibly be a picky eater because her other senses were hightened. Do the one bite rule. She has to chew and give her the option to spit it out but only if she actually tries it.

My 10 year old stepson is like that. I tried being strict but this boy will starve himself till he gets sick before he will eat something he doesn’t like. And he will whine and complain the whole time. He is the pickiest eater in the world.

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Tell her she meeds to take a no thank you bite. Take her to the store and ask her to puck out 1 new thing she would lime to try. A sticker chart for every time she tries something new, and she can think of the reward when she gets to 10 items.

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Maybe its more about texture than taste for her. Ask her how it feels more so than how it taste.

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Lol I made up a rule my picky guy had to like 2 new foods a year and every vacation he had to try something new if his choice lol :joy: we were in Mexico this year his choice was churros. Lol I know but he tried it. This year was raw carrots and cucumbers. Last year was ham. I have 3 that eat everything. One that doesn’t. Small steps.

I’ve been a picky eater my whole life. I have texture issues. My mom used to make me eat food and make such a big deal over it. I know their generations were forced to eat stuff. I won’t make my kids eat or try anything they don’t want to. It’s caused too many food issues for me. Now if it’s a disorder or something like that, I would be concerned. But really give her some vitamins to supplement. Maybe also let her make the food. My kids will eat stuff if they make it compared to if I make it.i don’t think it’s worth the battle. Everyone had different likes and dislikes when it comes to food. Even if they have never tried it

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Try letting her help make something she likes. Have her taste stuff before it is mixed and cooked . Like chicken nuggets. Flour, different seasonings, eggs, milk , oil, talk about raw chicken would taste. Let her help cook and enjoy . Explain how foods taste different when cooked different and she always needs to try one bite

I had 6 kids so we always told them. It cant always be your favorite that wouldnt be fair. So you dont have to like it but you do have to eat it just take a little bit.

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My nephews best friend was like that for years we found out later that he has a lot of problems with textures. He’ll eat anything now

My rule was and has always been you can’t say you don’t like a food until you’ve tried it 10 times. Make something’s she likes and something new. Put a small spoon of that with her food. Tell her she has to try the food she’s avoiding before getting seconds/extras of the others. Make a smaller than usual portion size.

It could be a texture thing. I can’t eat certain things due to the way it feels in my mouth. Like jello, pudding or yogurt. I can’t stand the way they feel when I eat it. It have nothing to do with taste. If it’s to mushy I will not eat it. It feels gross

My kid is picky he will tell me he don’t like something I tell him to eat it or go hungry we’ll here lately his 5 yr old brother will tell him to try it is good and when he does he likes it but his big brother has to tell him to try it first

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:wave::wave::wave:
Get her some Childrens Multivitamins as she goes through this phase. :orange_heart:

So I was picky (which actually was the beginnings of a pretty serious eating disorder), my mom cooked and she would always make sure there was something on the table she knew I wpuld eat, even if it was just rolls or green beans. And if I chose not to eat, there was nothing else. “it’s a long time until breakfast, so I suggest you find something to fill you up before bed” some night I went to bed hungry. But that was my choice. And by 9 you’re plenty old enough.

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My daughter will not eat steak anless it’s crumbed with mayo on the side to dip she won’t eat eggs unless it’s scrambled she won’t eat hot dogs without cheese on it