My aunt examines my baby when we visit: Advice?

My baby is a little over one. When I take her to her other side of the family, her aunt always examines her to see if she has bruises, her nails are clipped, anything in her ears…she has to be PERFECT. If there is a little bit of wax in the ear, she makes a huge fuss over it, or if there is a little red spot on the skin from crawling that usually immediately goes away, she always has to let everyone know and question what it is. I love my daughter and keep her clean, take great care of her, and knock on wood hasn’t had any major bruises yet…my daughter is still trying to walk, so some falls are going to happen, unfortunately. I never examined my nieces and nephews; I always felt like that is the parents’ job. Is it normal for the aunt to constantly look her over? I feel like when my baby gets older; she is going to think that something is wrong with herself. The aunt also examines my baby’s half-sibling and will take pictures if she finds any bruises. The aunt is also very negative about the outfit my baby’s sibling goes over in and is very critical all the time and talks bad about the mom in front of my child’s half-sibling. Am I overthinking this or is the aunt stinking her nose where it doesn’t belong? Should I tell her to stop messing with my child?

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She’s out of her mind

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Auntie needs to mind her own business

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It’s worng but some people just can’t help themselves they have too have their opinion what you could do and say well if your going to act like this then I’ll cut you off

Sounds like shes looking for something to use against you later…shes sounds nuts. Keep you kid away from her. Period.

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The real question is why are you taking your children around her ?? She doesn’t trust you around your children and is LOOKING for a reason to get dcs involved. Stop subjecting your children and yourself to that toxicity

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Oh no. Keep far away. If you are with the dad if it comes time where you don’t work out aunt could try to use normal things against you. This seems super creepy to me.

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My kid wouldn’t even go around her anymore

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Kids get bruises. If you know that you properly care for your child, that’s all that matters. She needs to mind her business and stay in her place. I wouldn’t take my kid around her. I cannot stand people like this.

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simle dont take her there and tell her why its ur child not hers she has had her time at being a parent

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I would legit eliminate that person out of my kids life. Obviously make that clear to her ahead of time but in the end if it isn’t respected FUCCCKKK that

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That would be a bye Felicia moment for me and mine!

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Quit letting her around your kids. She sounds like a very toxic individual.

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She needs to be told, how rude.

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I would tell her to back off. Kids are going to get hurt and be dirty somehow at some point. And that is OKAY!

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Nope put your foot down immediately. Do not allow her to examine either child. If she does without your consent or their fathers consent give her one warning and if it happens again call the police. She is not a medical professional nor child services, she has no right to examine them period.

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Stop taking your baby there

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Keep your kid away from this nut job.

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I was going to say maybe she is worried about getting blamed for any bruises. But all that other stuff sounds extra. Have you said anything to her about her checking your daughter? And talking about the kids clothes?

Make a fake bruise with make up and bring her over to see the aunt. Can you post a reaction video for us.

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