My baby wants nothing to do with me since I started working: Advice?

My husband is on disability for seizures. We have been married since 2016. hade a baby 10-30-18… I had her every day for three months. Sleeping on me and bonding so much… then I went to work because I had to. Now i work construction, and I’m gone five days a week she no longer wants me… HOW DO I DEAL WITH IT

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Shower when you get home and love her, hold her, talk/read to her

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This is what dads feel like when moms get to stay home. Shower and dedicate your time to her

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They go through stages… she’ll come around again.

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My husband has always worked construction and has been gone for long periods of time. When our daughter was little when he was home he would hold her, play with her and feed her (we bottle fed) and he would spend as much time as possible with her. We would even facetime in the evenings so she could hear his voice and try to get her to look at the phone and see him.

Now that she is 3 she understands more that daddy has to work. Even now when he is home he spends as much time with her as possible.

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All u can do is spend as much time as possible with the baby .

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I feel this so hard. I’ve always worked, but my husband was in the army so he was gone much more than I was. My kids were all 100% mamas babies during that time. After my husband got out of the army (right after we had our 6th child) we decided he would stay home since he missed out on so much being in the army and I would keep working (and working lots of overtime) and support us. My younger kiddos (now ages 1 and 2) wanted NOTHING to do with me. No matter how much I tried to be there for them or love on them when I was home. It hurt so badly. But I just kept trying anyways. Now we are pregnant again and my doctor put me out of work, so I’m home and my husband is working again, and my babies are literally attached to my hip again. Just try to remember that it isn’t because they don’t love you. They just want what they’re use to having. They want the person who’s always there comforting them. When you get home from work if your baby is crabby, lay down with h,er and have your husband go hang out with friends or go do something. Try to spend as much one on one time with her as you can.

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She’ll get over it, just remember her when you get home.

I think it’s a stage. I work and my fiancé is also on disability for seizures and stays with our daughter. She comes to me for everything when I’m home. She’s had a hard time with me working but it’s gotten easier as she’s gotten older, she’s five now.

Same way father’s feel working. Just do lots of bonding time when you get off work. It’s also just a phase.

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I work construction too. I’m currently on 7 12s. Most of the time my son runs from me when I get home(Jokingly of course) he still loves me. I don’t take it personally. Because I know at the end of the day. I’m at work trying to earn a living to provide for him. I’m not always going to be his favorite person. He will come around.

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Just deal with it. It’s just a phase, nothing personal. Dedicate time with her when you come home.

Make the most of the time that you do get to spend. Lots of playtime, make her laugh, tickles, take over the bedtime routine if you can, give the evening bath, etc. My hubs is a farmer and works construction so he isn’t home a ton but the time he does see our baby girl he actively interacts with her and she is coming around more and more each week :slight_smile: for reference our daughter turned one in January.

Kids flip back and forth between parents. It’s normal. She loves you and will outgrow it. Take her for mommy and me times when possible. Have picnics with her on the floor in the house or in the yard.

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