My best friend is stressing me out: Help?

I have been best friends with my girlfriend for years. I noticed the last couple of months she has bee very short with me, and I feel like I’m on pins and needles. I’ve been going through a lot with some health issues, and I’m not supposed to get stressed out my blood pressure has been high, and she is aware of this. I’m so sad and hurt because we have always been there for each other, and I feel she just doesn’t care. I need advice on what I should do, thank you.

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Bring it up to her with no judgement and no expectations. Tell her that you worry for her and would like to know what’s on her mind.

Honestly its not worth you health. Stress can play a huge roll on your health as it is.

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If it were me, I’d back away. You don’t have the health to spare by getting upset at whatever may be going on with her.

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^^agreed. If you have already told her you can not get stressed out and she doesn’t respect that then you need to distance yourself. This sounds like a one sided “friendship” to me. It sucks cause you been friends for so long. But like she said your healths not worth it. Honestly just being happy isn’t. If she was a true friend and you brought your problems to her attention she would have adjusted accordingly. If not well that just kind of shows her true colors. :woman_shrugging:t2::pensive:

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I seriously doubt it has anything to do with you. Give her space and don’t take it personally. She’ll come back around.

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She is not responsible for your perceptions, sometimes we just want and need time away from friends! This isn’t about you right now, it’s about her…

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Sometimes stepping a way for a minute is best your going through health issues and maybe she is too. Take a break take care of you. Sometimes getting your own emotions under control is best and maybe since you are having health issues it tends to make us feel under attack when we are in pain and hurting we tend to overthink every little thing. So don’t jump to conclusions that something is wrong.

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Communicate. One of the top 3 hurts in my life was when a friend whom I’d come to trust and love, which was hard to do in the first place, just stopped talking to me without explanation. I came to realize I cared more than she did and had to grieve that… it was very painful. Give her a chance to explain, but if it continues, you may need to give yourself space. Your health is number 1.

Talk with her, if she is your bestie you should be able to. Ask her how she is doing and ask her about her feelings. She may feel like you are neglecting her to.

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You have to do what’s best for yourself

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Your friend sounds like a selfish ass BITCH!!! I’m not gone sugar coat shit and act like you didn’t say that you have health issues.

Communication is key. Express yourself with your friend.

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It sounds like both of you are facing some sort of challenge. During your friendship she has been available to help you until you’re back to normal. But be patient with her as she is going through something as well and she needs you too. This will pass. Don’t hold it against her.

Thats not friendship… friends are there when you need them most

Its a reality call… stay away from her if she doesn’t come to ask whats the matter you have the answer, she isn’t your friend

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Strap on a nutsack and understand at the end of the day everyone has there personal burdens.
I bet you always being so sensitive wears on her

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She’s Not your Friend honey :skull:

Never take how someone treats you personally it’s a reflection of themselves. There is one person you can count on. That’s you! So take the best care of you possible, you deserve it.

Honestly, chances are that she may be going through some things too but she’s also scared as to what’s happening with you. Quite possibly, she may be taking a step back because she may not want to stress you out. Not realizing that her support is needed. Talk to her, reconnect. It doesn’t hurt to be open with your feelings.

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Before You are a banana to her but now…