Ladies, I’m not really sure what I am looking for by posting this, ig some words of encouragement or maybe your opinions on whether I was right or wrong… Last month my best friend’s fiancée hit on me. I have all the texts, and everything saved. I finally told her yesterday and showed her all the messages that he had sent to me. Now, the reasons why it took me so long to tell her was 1) after I ignored him, he has done his best to keep her away from me, so I haven’t had the chance to tell her up until yesterday and 2) because i just know in my heart that if she takes him back, I will never get to see her or her kid again and that absolutely breaks my heart. I had to tell her tho. I would not be a friend at all if I didn’t. But I feel so bad. I watched her cry and held her while she did and I feel so bad for breaking her heart but the way I see it is that if he was comfortable enough to hit on her best friend (knowing I was probably going to tell her) what stops his from doing it (and maybe going farther) with other women that don’t know she exists. Now he is telling her that I was texting him back and told him, “if she and he weren’t together, that he and I can “maybe” be together” - what does that mean? I knew in my heart that he would try to keep her from me when I told her but never even thought that would be how, although I should have. Was I right by telling her, and if yes, then why do I feel so bad?
Just sometimes doing the right thing feels like sh*t.
You did the right thing my dear. It hurts you cuz you know she’s hurting inside. She’s your best friend, I’m sure you ladies will find a way to meet up again sometime
Same thing happened to me! I ended up telling her and, she still with the guy … So now we aren’t friends awkward when he around feel super uncomfortable… You did the right thing dispite after math!
You did what any good friend would do. What any good person would do. Don’t feel bad…I know it might be hard. Hopefully she realizes that he’s trash and she’ll just throw the whole guy away.
Everyone hates on the messenger! You are a good friend. Doing the right thing doesn’t always play out in favor of those who are loyal, truthful, ect…
You wouldn’t be a good friend if you didn’t tell her but it’s up to her sometimes love is blind.
Absolutely right. I would want to know. You are her best friend!!! If he had enough gull to hit on you, he’d hit on any other woman!
You done the right thing. The right thing isnt always the easiest thing to do x
You were definitely in the right to tell her
I have been in your situation.
She’ll choose him and cut you out, for a while.
He’ll hurt her and she’ll come back to you.
It’s your job now to support her decisions, she has to do everything she can to make her relationship work.
Pray for her, let her know your on her side regardless or she won’t be able to come back to you.
You did the right thing.
I would be proud to have you as a friend if I were her!
Personally I think you should have just blocked him and not tell .
You did the right thing! You hurt because you care so much for her and knew she would be hurt. You did what a real friend would do. He’s a dirtbag for doing that. I really hope it doesn’t affect your friendship
One of my favorites things I’ve learned thus far is that every lesson needs players. It sucks feeling like or actually being “the bad guy”, but someone has to play that role, and sometimes it’s us.
Yes you did the right thing. Good for you. That’s being a true friend!
Its hurting you because you care about her, and her feelings.
The best thing you can do now is be there for her when she needs you.
She will choose to believe him and you won’t hear from her until later on when she finds out more and more stuff and is finally fed up with him. You feel bad because you’re probably going to lose your friend for a while even though you did the right thing. She will apologize to you for it some day.
Same thing happened to me but it was my step sister. Her boyfriend was sending texts and pictures and when I told her and she confronted him, he said I was making it all up cause I wanted to be with him and break them up, even though I had proof. We barely see each other and we don’t talk anymore because she believed him over me and this is not the only time he’s cheated on her. But he chose his path by cheating, I chose mine by telling her, and she chose hers by believing him every time and staying with him. I know I did the right thing and so did you
Why were you and him texting so much back and forth? You gave him attention. And he ended up giving it back to you.
Same happened to me. She married him anyway but now they are divorced. She & I are still friends though. You did the right thing. What he did is not your fault.
It will always boil down to the fact, that you’re gloating about it, because he showed interest , even if you were just trying to be nice and be a good friend, You crushed her confidence, you could of said he flirting with some you know ', but Nooooo you want to be the diva🙄