My body will not let me have anymore kids: Has anyone else been through this?

So I’ve had a total of 5 miscarriages and stillborn at 28 weeks, but I do have a living 3 yr old who was born at 30 weeks. I wanted to get my tubes tied to end any future pain, and my husband supported me, so we got it done. My daughter broke my heart, asking for a brother. I broke down crying, telling her I tried but couldn’t. I’m pretty sure she didn’t understand. She does have cousins she’s close to, but they all have siblings, and she knows that. I just don’t know what to do. I thought about another pet for her, but we already have two dogs and fishes in a big tank. Has anyone else gone through this and if so, what did you do?

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Sorry u gone thru that

Not sure if you are open to it but you can always adopt a baby or get a surrogate

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Sorry love Maybe adoption if u r up to it good luck love

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maybe adopt ? but hugs mama :heart:

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There’s two ways you can do about this purse do what my daughter did she has one child she showed this child how nice it is being the only one now she gets things and was able to do more with her but if she had other siblings that she was constantly going to have to share she also made sure that there was lots of cousins and so forth she was around so when they were there she would make her share so when they left should say no if that was somebody that was living here you would not let you would not be able to just say okay it’s over I have to still share they learn quick and most of the time then they don’t want a sibling and if it’s not her and you really want one there’s so many needy gets out there that need a mommy and daddy there are if you can’t afford adoption think about foster care long-term foster care that you may have options of adoption

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Please adopt if you can!

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Maybe have your Rh tested. Your body could be treating the baby as a foreign object due to your blood type. There is a fix

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I’m so sorry you’ve struggled with fertility. I can only imagine how heartbreaking your journey has been and continues to be.

It’s probably much easier said than done but please consider adoption. There are so many babies out there in the world who need a warm home and loving family. Your daughter could still have a brother or sister :orange_heart:

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Most children ask for a little brother/sister. She will be perfectly fine being an only child! No need to feel guilty about that… just join playgroups… :heart:

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Apply to be a foster mom so your child can experience having other children in the house

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Have you considered adopting?

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If you want another child, not because your 3yo wants a sibling, look into fostering & adoption. If another child is not what you & your husband want then she’s just going to have to learn she won’t have siblings.

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Talk with a fertility specialist. You can always use a donor egg, a surrogate or adopt an embryo. There are so many options and as mentioned above, adoption.

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Consider adoption or foster care. Lots of kids out there needing living homes. And what a great lesson in love for your daughter.

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I have 3 kiddos and mostbdays my oldest (8) doesnt like/want his little brother (3) but then asks me to have another little brother or sister for him. Most kids ask and lots get mad after lol.

Long term foster care or adoption is a great route but also can be heartbreaking. Good luck to you and your family momma whatever you chopse keep your head held high. You’ve got this!

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It’s heartbreaking, my son often talks about his sister who died at 41+4wks.
All you can do is comfort them and tell them you understand.

Adoption is also pretty damn hard, costly and takes years in Australia

I haven’t personally but my cousin has a daughter a year older than my oldest and she asks for siblings. I tell her that my kids can be like her brothers and sisters. Idk if that will help, but it seems to help her. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Have you thought of having a surrogate :blush::blush:

Consider adoption? Surrogate?

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