My boyfriend always gives his mother money: Thoughts?

Been in a relationship for three years now, and we share a baby together, and my bf lives with me. I recently noticed him always giving his mama money (she is married and has a job better off then we are). I knew from the start he’s a huge mama’s boy but didn’t realize how bad. He buys her clothes shoes anything she asks for. She will even say things like I’m broke or I need this knowing he’ll go get and give whatever she wants. So after three years, I finally told him how I felt about it. That I didn’t think it was right, and his priorities are his daughter and me. Now he’s ignoring me in my own house. Won’t help me without baby, the little things he uses to do like getting bottles read throwing away diapers he stopped doing it. Was I wrong for telling him how I felt? And am I wrong that it bothers me that he is like this with his mom?

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Honnestly send him back to his mum’s .

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Agree with you 110%. He is acting childish!

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Make him get out and then he can pay you child support then he wont be able to give his mom money because he will be supporting his child. xoxo

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Wow he’s a huge man child. Tell him to go be with his mommy if he wants to act like a child.

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If he wants to act like a child, treat him like one. Leave until he’s done pouting :blush: even if it’s for the night.

Tell him to go to Mom’s until he can act right.

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Send his back to his mama and see how he will feel paying child support… what a man child!!!

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I suppose an important question is whether or not you and your baby were lacking in necessities? Was he buying her things when you were going without? I do agree that it’s a rather odd situation, given that she has steady income of her own but asks her son to provide for her like she’s the child. I don’t think you’re wrong in feeling the way you do. But given that you know how deep rooted their relationship is… meaning his Mama’s boy status… I wonder if it was worth saying anything. If he’s wonderful provider (even with helping with bottles and diapers, like you mentioned) despite his mother, perhaps it’s best to “take it back” and apologize for not having a better understanding.
But if and when that conversation takes place and he’s standing his ground next to his mother- maybe you’ve exposed an issue that would have eventually hit the fan inevitably!

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Fuck no you are not wrong. Kick his ass out and make him go be with his momma. If be wants to act like a baby then he better be with his momma.

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Nope. Not wrong I wouldn’t put up with that. I mean it is one thing to help mom out if she needs it. This is a whole new level

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That’s weird. Does he want to be in a relationship with his mom lol cuz that’s what it sounds like🤣 Tell him to move back in with her…

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Send him home to Mom

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File child support and kick him out

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I follow Dave Ramsey, so naturally it went against everything I was doing since My husband was sending money to family in Jamaica.
Until your married it’s his money. When your married it’s both y’alls money.

If you dont settle it now it’s not a money problem but a relationship problem.

The book boundries might help everyone.

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Not wrong at all. Man the things I have said over a mama’s boy. Girl stand ur ground. Next time he wants some tell him to go to his mama to keep him warm.

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If he rather take care of his mom rather than you guys then he can move back with her.
I give my mom money (she gets paid only $800 a month) but she always pays us back and i usually always talk to my husband when i do.
I dont see a problem with him giving her money SOMETIMES but not like you said he does.

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He will never change. Get out of that relationship now. You will regret it later if you don’t break the ties now. Take this from someone who has been in your shoes.

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Even if he disagrees with you he’s acting like a child. He can’t just stop helping with the baby. What if you handed him the baby and left for the day without saying anything. That’s BS. Don’t let him gaslight you

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You are correct that you and that baby are his number 1 priority. If she has a job then it’s not his problem she can’t budget…and don’t you dare feel bad for calling him out for this bc he’s being a child.

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