My boyfriend and I have been having issues: Thoughts?

I’m not even sure where to start. My boyfriend and I have been having some issues here lately — more than normal. I have two kids from a previous relationship, and he has one, which he gets twice a month. His daughter is one of our problems. She is disrespectful, she tries to bully my girls, she will take things right from their hands, and if I didn’t see it, I’d simply ask, and she always says “they shouldn’t be snitching on me” and then she will fake cry making my girls feel bad so they will give it to her. She will lie to her dad about what happened; she is only 6. This is becoming a huge problem. He moved into my girls, and I home, and the only way I was allowed by my landlord was to put his name on my lease. I regret it terribly. He hardly ever picks up after himself or his daughter when she’s here. I work a full-time job myself and then come home and take care of my children. He will constantly call me if I don’t answer, and then he is shitty with me. My youngest daughter has always slept with me; he came up with this idea that he didn’t want her in my bed anymore. So every night, I have to hear him bitch about it, I’ve told him many times that when I am ready and when she is, I’ll do it, but I don’t need him on my ass about it. Every single day, it’s a constant fight about something. I haven’t had sex with him for two days, and he is throwing a fit over it. I have severe depression, so my antidepressants make me have a low sex drive, and I have explained that to him so many times. He stays up late, playing his game and then gets mad when my youngest daughter wakes up, he says things like “I’ll just bring my bed, and I’ll take her bedroom since she isn’t ever in it.” Like no, you’re not, all of her toys are in there, she plays and watches tv in her room. Everything is always about him, and if it isn’t, he makes to be. The bills are spilled in half since he moved in, well since the second month because he didn’t pay anything the first month he lived with me. He will spend all of his money on bullshit and then tell me; it’s because of me. There’s only just maybe a handful of times that he has bought a pack of cigarettes or two and put all together like $30 of gas in my car. He says that since I get child support, I should be giving him something to watch my girls for 20-30 minutes a few times a week because I have to be at work, and my mom will come and pick them up for me. If we go to the store or to eat somewhere, I’m usually the one always paying for it.

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Oh no baby he’s gotta go!

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You need to get rid of him. Seems to me that hes just using you

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Break the lease, get the fuck out.

Hell NO.

Hes toxic baby he has to go like tomorrow

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Doesn’t sound like a boyfriend to me 🤷

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This is more than issues to me. It’s more like throw the whole boy away. You don’t need a man child to take care of and another mouth to feed. I’d literally just tell him it’s over and start saving for something else to move into. Least it’s a lesson learn to never put anyone on the lease again, but hindsights a b right? I hope everything works out for you

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Dump his ass he is a CHILD not a man it’s just gunna get worse before better… you and ur girls deserve better

Cut bait and run. Go to court and file for an eviction. Follow the law. If he makes any threats make a police report and get out while you still have your sanity. This guy is not good. Trust what your instincts are telling you.

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He sounds like a dead beat.
He gotta go :woman_shrugging:

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Why do you tolerate his behavior?Only you can make the decision to boot him out.Put your kids first always

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This doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship, at all… Throw him in the bin!

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Tell him give him an ultimatum tell him if he don’t get his act together he’s gonna have to move outn

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Time to take the trash out!!

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Go to your local district justice and have him evicted

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Girl, just no. You can’t raise a man.

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Kick him out …don’t need the toxic

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Wow. And you’re still with him? Remove him from your lease and give him the boot. You don’t need that lazy arse in your life.

BS… He’s a free loading asshole…give him his walking papers…

Talk to your landlord about all of this that you feel like this will turn into an unsafe relationship and how to go about getting him off the lease so you can make him move out

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