My boyfriend complains about my kid: Advice?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We have a house together. When we first got together, he never really said much about my kids or how I raised them or anything about it, really. He won’t mind if we had to spend time together with a child or children now if I ask to tag along with him, its a huge deal. If a child is coming, it’s even worse. He’ll get mad if my kids make a mess and tell me," it’s not my place to clean up after them." Also, he doesn’t really help with housework… I’m at a loss of what to think anymore, let alone feel about the situation… What would you do?

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Dump him. He doesn’t sound good for your kids and it’ll only get worse. You need a man who’s going to love your kids and treat them as your own

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Leave him. Like yesterday. If he can’t accept you as well as your children, he’s not the right man for you. I can only imagine how it makes the kids feel being treated like a burden by him.

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Girl.
Put that fella on the curb and move on.
If he truly loves you, unconditionally, he should love those babies (a part of you) the same.:heart:

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It will only get worse. Why waste your time with someone like that?

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He sick of your kids basically. Move on

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Throw the whole fucking man away and find you a new one

Doesn’t sound like your match

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time for him to leave…

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Leave. If he can’t accept your kids, which are apart of you, then he isn’t really in it.

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Its not your place to be their mother? I’d leave

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dump his ass ! sounds like a total loser to me

First of all, shouldn’t be living with him, that early WITH KIDS. I’ve been with my bf for 3 yrs and we still only see each other on the weekends. With that being said, he LOVES my daughter and treats her great and is always open and accepting of her joining us, even if we’re dying for alone time. If we lived together he would be helping me raise her and that includes cleaning up after her and anything else. He needs to go, you can do better for your kids.

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If i was with someone who didn’t accept my babe 100% it would be a massive deal breaker.
I don’t think that situation is ever going to get better so If it were me I would leave.

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Well, I wouldn’t put up with it. I’m a package deal. And if your gonna sign up for it, you ain’t gonna do it half ass. My kids are first. This shouldn’t be a question. Think how it is gonna be in a year or two down the road.

Dump him if can’t except you children he is not worthy

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Honestly he’s gotta realize it takes a family to make a home and a family to help keep a family going if he’s not willing to help out or do this part then he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship with someone who’s already got a family because you and your children were a family and he walked into a family

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Clearly he doesn’t accept your child. Leave.

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Just throw the whole man away. His place is the bottom of the barrel where you found him

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While they aren’t technically his children nor his responsibility it is completely unfair for all parties involved to stay in a situation where ALL parties, children included, aren’t getting what they need or deserve… Leave him and focus on you and your kids until a MAN who wants to help in your responsibility comes along…

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