My boyfriend gets mad that I buy my daughter more things for Christmas than his: Am I wrong?

My boyfriend on and off for five years got mad at me last year for buying and getting more presents for my daughter (child from a previous relationship not his biologically am I wrong for saying its not my responsibility and that their mother should have done it, and I shouldn’t have to financially support his whole family and saying I’m not going to do it again this year?

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Depends i think…do they spend xmas with you and your daughter…bc if so they should all be equal in my eyes…if u celebrate seperate it shouldnt matter as much.

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She’s part of ur family to especially if y’all get married

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Uhhhhh. You treat them both equally. Your bf is 100% right on this.

It’s your responsibility to treat them equally.

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He’s wrong on so many levels. Christmas is about the child. Not about him.

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TF. Are you having Christmas together? Do you consider yourself a family?! Then absolutely do the same for his kids.

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Yeah you kinda are… When dating someone with children, those children become yours as well.

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If they spend the holiday with you then it should be equal

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Is he buying his daughter anything? If so, does he buy your daughter the same amount of stuff? If so, id say make it even. If not, then he can pitch in too

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If you celebrate together,you treat them equally.

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I think one gift or two is reasonable. Does he buy her any gifts, or leaves that financially up you? You’re not his wife, nor her step-mother. If y’all were married then yes. Equal. But my opinion is he should be buying his child the gifts.

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There is nothing worse than sitting there on Christmas morning watching your step/half siblings open tons of gifts when you don’t have the same amount. Don’t do that to those kids. They are just kids and that shit hurts for life. Speaking from experience.

Kids need to be equal

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In my opinion, if you’re in a relationship and want them to treat your child the same as they treat yours, then you should treat their child the same as you treat yours. I, personally, if in a relationship with someone that has a child, would not treat their child any differently than my own.

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You sound like a terrible step mom.

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Yes, you treat the kids equally! Being a good step-parent means not leaving the other child out because of biology. It’s not the child’s fault.

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Buying gifts is not financially supporting someone. If you can’t treat children equally maybe leave them alone so he could get someone that treats his son right.

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If you all spend holidays together, he buys them all equally then you should do the same.

I have a SD and 5 kids of my own my bf pays 99% of the bills so I take care of Christmas I buy for her just as I do my own and he does for mine also if he buys something for his he buys the same for all

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How r u supporting his whole family by buying YOUR stepchild as many presents?? I’d be mad too if I was him

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