My boyfriend had an affair: Thoughts?

Few months ago I found out from like a few people that my bf was spotted with another chick an i didnt know that he was hanging out with he originally told me he was gonna be at his moms an his moms boyfriend place for a few nights than I heard from a few friend we had in common that he was spotted with another chick I confronted him about it he denied it saying that she was just a family friend but yeah he took her downtown because she asked him to protect her cuz hes a tall guy anyways fast forward to before xmas this past year I got a call from another close person an they told me he did in fact have a chick over an he left with her an that he did sleep with her an now she may be preg when I found that out I freaked out at him an he knew he got caught he kept telling me he doesnt wanna lose me an that he loves me an that she was just one time even though apparently him an this chick had a history I told him how I felt an now he refuses to leave my side thinking I’ll sleep with someone else or I’ll find someone else an I’ve been loyal through this whole relationship an had to put on a brave face through christmas an than I took a test at home an it came back pos an I know it’s his but I still feel betrayed by what he did with that other chick I dunno what to do? I know he has kids from a previous relationship never met them, tho what would yall do?

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If he doesnt care for his previous kids…i would cut my losses

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If he’s just a boyfriend, sounds simple enough

Run and dont look back.

Move on,don’t waste anymore time

No moving on from that. He’ll do it again and hes obviously a bad father. Obviously you know what to do 🤦

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Leave him. His guilty conscience will make his hovering unbearable and HE CHEATED. You’re worth more, believe me. Not worth the heart ache and constant questioning

If you’ve never met his other kids and he is always by your side then obviously he is a deadshit father and doesn’t deserve to have kids!

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An affair is marriage, cheating is a boyfriend. He sounds like someone who doesn’t care about his other children, you or the possibility of another one. Trust me, there’s better

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There is no love where there is disrespect.

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I can’t even read all this dump him. He cheated have some self respect move on

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Leave him and co-parent. He cheated and then lied to you about thinking your friends wouldn’t have your back. Yes I’m assuming the positive test was for pregnancy, you can co-parent, but a man who cheats will most likely do it again, some may not. But other succumb to the temptation of other women. I would break it off and just tell him we can co-parent. Don’t be bitter about it, but he’s not worth your loyalty.

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:v: run and dont look back! Dont be " that girl" leave and be in a meaningful relationship, please!

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Run. Away. Fast. He’s a Loser. Stay, and hell make you a loser too. Gauranteed.

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Leave. No 2nd chances, your mind and heart wont fully be in it and it would cause you more pain to stay. Leave, heal, grow

If he physically cheated i would leave for awhile at the least. Get to know yourself and try therapy. Couples therapy is a great option if you are going to try and work it out. But please do not let this become your life, do not let him stay with you and do this. Good luck.

Run. So many red flags with this guy … cheating, not being a responsible father… cut your losses now and leave! Don’t waste any more precious time on him!

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Boy bye :wave: a baby won’t make him loyal if he wasn’t loyal to begin with

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Leave. He’s not worth it and he’ll do it again.

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If he doesnt see his others kids(I’m sorry to say this) but this one is no different he wint be around. Hrs not even faithful to you? Leave cut your losses and disappointment you can be a single mom and deal with less baggage. You got this dont stay for a child!

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