My boyfriend hasn't told his mom about me: Advice?

My boyfriend is 6 yrs younger than me and hasn’t told his mom about us. I have two boys. He has none. We’ve been dating for eight months already. It saddens me to think that he really doesn’t want to be with me, or am I overreacting? He gets along with my boys as well, and that’s something I like, but I do get sad sometimes thinking about the fact he doesn’t want to tell his mom yet he has already told me his mom won’t have a problem with the age gap. But will feel some type of way about me having kids.

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Sounds like a kid who wants a woman to take care of him like his mother had only with the added benefits of erhem… need I say more?

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If he’s not mature enough to handle mommy he’s not mature enough to be a step daddy. Find a man dear.

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Can I ask the ages please? Because she is definitely just a number but then again I think it’s the age you you meet at the time may be a good point to get across. Like is he 20 and you 26 or is he 16 and are you 22? Because that as a parent would be my only concern about my child being with someone 6 years older

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He prolly doesn’t want to tell his mom because he has at least 1 other girlfriend.

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I’d personally never expose my kids to someone before i knew them enough to the point were i knew they had the best intentions for my kids and myself…
it sounds like he isn’t the one she should bring around her kids just yet… if he cant tell his family about you… then that’s when i close the book on that chapter… cause he is hiding you for a reason…

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Like some one else said what’s the ages? If you’re talking about a younger guy like in his teens/early 20’s he might not be mature enough for you. Remember lots of people say guys mature slower than girls. Could be your third child

He’s not ready to see a future with you, doesn’t mean he won’t eventually but 8 months isn’t that long to decide if someone’s staying in your future.

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Shouldnt be with him if he is afraid to introduce you and your children. His mom will always be his no 1 and an influence on him. Imagine if ye stay together and ye hav children together…she will favour his children bur not yours…can you imagine how yoyr children will feel…ignored, left out, presents for the others and not for them and on it goes. Your children will suffer more than you, and it will hurt you and cause relationship problems and prob you become a single mom again to 3,4, or more children. Is that what you really want for your future. Exit stage left…

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He’s not mature enough hon.

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He’s not serious about you

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8 months seems like enough time to tell his mom. How old is he?

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He might have a history of getting with women and it doesn’t work. There’s a reason he’s keeping this away from his mom. Maybe he doesn’t want to disappoint her. So he’s waiting. There’s no time limit

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He sounds very immature. My best advice is cut him loose. You need a man not another child.

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I had this same problem with my hubby I was a single mom with a four year old when we met. He was fresh out of military,no kids, and lived at home. It was a good year before he introduced me to his family. It caused problems for us because he refused to introduce me as his gf. But didn’t really see a future with me at the time he was only 25 at the time so age could possibly contribute as I was 27 going on 28 ready to settle down. Just sit down and ask him where he sees your future going and if he sees if there is any room there for you and your boys. If not then he needs to let you all go before your boys get too emotionally invested and makes it harder on everyone if that’s not what he really wants.

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Maybe he has another girlfriend that his mom already knows about…

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How old is he? Under 18? He is either too young for you, or not mature enough for you. Either way you should walk away…

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He’s not serious about you. 8 months is long enough to know what you want in terms of it being long term I don’t mean marriage and more kids but he should know by now if he’s hoping and planning to spend years with you. If he planned on a future with you at all he would want to introduce you to his family.

I’m going through the same exact thing right now. I’m a single mom of two kids and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months and he still hasn’t either. I’m going off the fact that he got divorced shortly before we got together and so this is a big step. I wish I had advice for you, but just know you’re not alone and I know what you’re going through.

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That’s suspicious…

If it was me… I refuse to be a secret… I’d walk up in his mom’s place and introduce myself as her future daughter in law…

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