My boyfriend is best friends with his ex and it makes me uncomfortable: Advice?

My boyfriend is best friends with his ex, and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I do trust him. I just do not like the situation. I have expressed myself on several occasions about this, and he says that it will not end because nothing is wrong with the situation. I kinda feel like the third wheel. They talk all the time and see each other almost every day. The family things that we should be doing together take place with her and her fam. I’m usually invited, but it is just too uncomfortable for me. Any advice??

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His ex is my friend now… she gives me baby clothes. She wasn’t going away so I insert myself. Im not worried you can’t make someone love you. If he stays he loves you. Dont second guess yourself he’s with you not her

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Make him choose or leave

Been there done that. The chances of them still hooking up are really high

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Wow. You’ve expressed your uncomfortable with it and feel like a third wheel? And hes doing nothing to ease his GIRLFRIENDS feelings???!!! What a mess. Id give him an ultimatum. And if he didn’t choose or still wanted his cake and to eat it too id leave

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You have a decision to make. You either learn to live with it or move on. There is no in between

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Yes. Leave. You are never going to feel good there… it’s shady.

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Leave. Just go.
Nope.
No way in hell…

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Did you know they were best friends and exs when you got with him? If so, I feel there is really nothing you can do except leave cause their friendship came first.

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Are there children involved or not?

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You said it yourself you don’t trust him if you don’t have trust you really have nothing

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Find a new boyfriend!

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I actually don’t find this strange because your invited if you weren’t I would be concerned. If my husband left me and moved on I :100: would still be his friend he is my best friend regardless if we’re together or not because he’s been there for me durn the worst parts of my life . Maybe include yourself if your feeling left out let Him know . Maybe she isn’t as bad as you think . I know how you feel though and it is hard but maybe you’ll be surprised and make a friend in her x

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He’s trying to have his “cake” and eat it too. Literally

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Id find a new boyfriend.the one you have is pretty selfish and inconsiderate.

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If u trust him don’t force urself into his friendships. It doesn’t matter the gender of the friendship. If u don’t trust him to hang out with people your relationship is weak. Therapy or leave. ( although I have bpd so I have a hard time with shades of grey)

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How long have they been friends? Did you know they were friends when you got together? If so, then you have no right to be upset about it. She was there first. :woman_shrugging:

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Blunt answer: he’s probably still hooking up with her. Leave, sis.

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Did you know about her and their friendship before you got with him

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Im best friends with my ex. We co parent, have 4 children together. Im with another man and we can all hang out together and get along.

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