My Boyfriend Pushes Our Daughter Away in Favor of His Other Child: Advice?

QUESTION:

"My boyfriend has a child by someone else and every time our oldest daughter is around, he has the tendency to show off and be very rude.

And when I say rude, I mean it’s as if she doesn’t exist, as if she’s a bother to him when all she wants to do is say hi.

She’s three and he’ll push her away; it’s very disheartening because it’s not the first time. I’ve spoken about it, and I’m always the bad guy in the situation… Anyone else experience this or have any info?"

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“That’s when you throw the whole man away. Your kids come before anyone else.”

“If he can’t accept your child as well as his then he doesn’t deserve a spot in your life.”

“Honestly, I wouldn’t let anyone treat my daughter like she is less than. Father or not, they would be hitting the road.”

“Throw the whole boyfriend out. Never date a man who doesn’t treat your child the way he treats his own. It’s only going to cause your child heartache growing up if he becomes a permanent part of her life.”

“I would never let my child be treated like that, I’d be out of that relationship asap.”

“Run Forest Run. Don’t look back. It will never change. Make this your positive move for 2020!”

“Does the other kid visit and not live there? This could be him trying to spend time with one while he has them there. Although I’d definitely pay attention to both my children and not EVER leave one out.”

“Tell him flat out and then record him. People often change their tunes when they see how assholish they are. SHOW HIM.”

“Break up with him, file a parenting plan with the courts, and move on with your life. Co-parent with him, but otherwise, remove him from your life. Also, submit any proof of his behavior you have to the courts showing he isn’t being a good parent to your child.”

“That’s just sad. Shame on him. Do not tolerate this as it will harm your child’s self-confidence.”

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Well change “my bf” to “my ex bf” first of all because that shit isn’t acceptable. You and your daughter both deserve better, especially your daughter. He teaching her how to be loved as a women and letting it happen is you reinforcing it. Get out while you can.

That’s when you throw the whole man away. Your kids come before anyone else

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If he can’t accept your child as well as his than he doesn’t deserve a spot in your life 🙅

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Video it… So u have proof then take your kid and leave.

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Hes a Dick…flick him…

Your kid(s) come first. Always. Do what’s best for her and leave

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Does the other kid visit and not live there? This could be trying to spend time with one why he has them there. Although id definitely pay attention to both my children an not EVER leave one out

Run Forest Run. Don’t look back. It will never change. Make this your positive move for 2020!

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I wouldn’t be with someone like that if they can’t respect my child then bye bye Felicia

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Keep telling him about it and even bring it up when he is being good to your guys daughter. Remind him why he isn’t like that when his other child is around. I believe Men do it because they feel they already give less love to the one that doesn’t live with them but they shouldn’t be giving extra or special treatment. You treat them the same. There’s no need for it. It’s life!! when they are with you they will live with you as normal and when they are with the other parent live like normal. So it STAYS normal. Parents tend to favor or treat kids with gifts to buy kids off it’s so ridiculous. Kids notice that too so if the other child notices, that’s when they get entitled and act like little shits because they are being treated extra special. So many people do this. I don’t get it. All it does is make other kids feel like shit. I grew up with divorced parents. We weren’t treated extra. Like it is what it is.

Why would you be with someone like that? Kick him to the curb!

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Tell him flat out and then record him. People often change their tunes when they see how assholish they are. SHOW HIM

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technically until your married its not really his kid… he has no legal paternal rights to your kid… does he only have shared custody and see his kid only a couple days a week?

Break up with him, file a parenting plan with the courts, and move on with your life. Co-parent with him, but otherwise remove him from your life. Also submit any proof of his behavior you have to the courts showing he isn’t being a good parent to your child.

Throw the whole boyfriend out. Never date a man who doesn’t treat your child the way he treats his own. It’s only going to cause your child heartache growing up if he becomes a permanent part of her life.

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Honestly I wouldn’t let anyone treat my daughter like she is less than. Father or not they would be hitting the road.

That’s just sad. Shame on him. Do not tolerate this as it will harm ur child’s self confidence

Poor child he will never accept her what arsshole you must leave for sake of this child she could end up another statistic

Throw the bf away, hes broken. No child should EVER have to feel unwanted.