My boyfriend talked to my son about puberty when I asked him not to: Advice?

Am I out of line being upset? I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years known him for 10+ years. I have two kids from a previous relationship, and their father, while was a shitty dad when we were together, has turned into a pretty good dad since we split. My son recently started showing signs of puberty. I brought it up to my bf in passing. He did live with us and said, “ok; I’ll talk to him,” meaning my son. I asked him not to because I don’t wanna start a fight with his dad. He goes, “I don’t care,” then has a brief talk about deodorant with my son. I’m very upset because I don’t feel like it’s his place, and I’m being told if my bf is gonna be involved, he is 100% involved and just because my ex wants to be a dad now doesn’t mean he gets to be. Am I wrong in being upset? TIA

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Uhhhh. He talked to him about deodorant?

You need to chill tf out.

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I think maybe a little bit.
You’ve been with him for 2 years, I’m assuming living together at this point? I don’t see why it would be a big deal to bring up deodorant. He wants to help and be involved with your kid.

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There isn’t anything wrong with telling someone they need to wear deodorant. Most kids don’t even know they smell lol. I wouldn’t be upset :slightly_smiling_face:

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I don’t think you’re wrong for being upset. Especially because he went against your wishes and should have respected you asking him not to … but if it was just a deodorant talk and no more than yeah you’re kinda overreacting

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He talked just about deodorant? Yeah you overreacting.

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If you don’t let him be a parent in your shared household what are you even doing with him? I think you’re out of line. Denying him the right to be a father just because you don’t want to fight with the ex. Try standing together instead.

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Deodorant? Ya your over reacting a bit… be grateful he talks to your kid

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to me a talk about deodorant isn’t exactly the same as a talk about puberty. especially if it was a brief one… like “hey dude, you’re getting older and you’re sweating more than before, here’s a stick of deodorant”?

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People are entirely too rude on here. (Hence above comments) YOUR CHILD, your choice. Tell him how you feel and enforce it

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Dude if your kid needs deodorant wouldn’t you rather have him be taught about it instead of going to school and getting picked on for stinking

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I’m going to say you would be wrong for being upset about a conversation about deodorant it’s not like he said something about sex or anything else that should be discussed with his own father🤷🏻‍♀️ imo you should be happy he wants to be involved with another mans kids

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He didn’t go more in depth then deodorant? Then yeah you’re overreacting just a tad bit.

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Yeah, I think you may be over thinking it. Question is do you want your man to be fully involved or not.

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Two years and he can’t help you parent? Ridiculous

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If you want him to help you parent you cant really pick and choose, to me it’s all or nothing ( I have a step daughter )

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Over freaking deodorant??? Yea u really need to step back on that one🤦🤦

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He talked to your son about deodorant? And you’re mad? Wow. Yeah, definitely overreacting.

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Um wow…deoderant? And he will get into trouble?
This sounds like a scary dictatorship. I hope you punished him for daring assist parenting your son. 2 years and he should know better…back in your box mate.:see_no_evil:

Talk to dad and have him discuss it with son. Everything and anything.