Am I out of line being upset? I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years known him for 10+ years. I have two kids from a previous relationship, and their father, while was a shitty dad when we were together, has turned into a pretty good dad since we split. My son recently started showing signs of puberty. I brought it up to my bf in passing. He did live with us and said, “ok; I’ll talk to him,” meaning my son. I asked him not to because I don’t wanna start a fight with his dad. He goes, “I don’t care,” then has a brief talk about deodorant with my son. I’m very upset because I don’t feel like it’s his place, and I’m being told if my bf is gonna be involved, he is 100% involved and just because my ex wants to be a dad now doesn’t mean he gets to be. Am I wrong in being upset? TIA
Uhhhh. He talked to him about deodorant?
You need to chill tf out.
I think maybe a little bit.
You’ve been with him for 2 years, I’m assuming living together at this point? I don’t see why it would be a big deal to bring up deodorant. He wants to help and be involved with your kid.
There isn’t anything wrong with telling someone they need to wear deodorant. Most kids don’t even know they smell lol. I wouldn’t be upset
I don’t think you’re wrong for being upset. Especially because he went against your wishes and should have respected you asking him not to … but if it was just a deodorant talk and no more than yeah you’re kinda overreacting
He talked just about deodorant? Yeah you overreacting.
If you don’t let him be a parent in your shared household what are you even doing with him? I think you’re out of line. Denying him the right to be a father just because you don’t want to fight with the ex. Try standing together instead.
Deodorant? Ya your over reacting a bit… be grateful he talks to your kid
to me a talk about deodorant isn’t exactly the same as a talk about puberty. especially if it was a brief one… like “hey dude, you’re getting older and you’re sweating more than before, here’s a stick of deodorant”?
People are entirely too rude on here. (Hence above comments) YOUR CHILD, your choice. Tell him how you feel and enforce it
Dude if your kid needs deodorant wouldn’t you rather have him be taught about it instead of going to school and getting picked on for stinking
I’m going to say you would be wrong for being upset about a conversation about deodorant it’s not like he said something about sex or anything else that should be discussed with his own father🤷🏻♀️ imo you should be happy he wants to be involved with another mans kids
He didn’t go more in depth then deodorant? Then yeah you’re overreacting just a tad bit.
Yeah, I think you may be over thinking it. Question is do you want your man to be fully involved or not.
Two years and he can’t help you parent? Ridiculous
If you want him to help you parent you cant really pick and choose, to me it’s all or nothing ( I have a step daughter )
Over freaking deodorant??? Yea u really need to step back on that one🤦🤦
He talked to your son about deodorant? And you’re mad? Wow. Yeah, definitely overreacting.
Um wow…deoderant? And he will get into trouble?
This sounds like a scary dictatorship. I hope you punished him for daring assist parenting your son. 2 years and he should know better…back in your box mate.
Talk to dad and have him discuss it with son. Everything and anything.