Hey, so I’m just looking for a bit of advice. It’s not for me but my boyfriend. He has two girls with his ex, the first child was the result of a one night stand with her, but he stepped up, and they got together to raise their daughter, but the girl became abusive, telling people he would beat her and attacked him, punched him so hard that she punctured his lung!! Still, he stayed for the little one; despite her cheating on him, she told him that he was the father of the second baby, fair enough they split up though. He moved around the corner, and she banned him from seeing the kids. No court or anything just told him no, she then went on to spreading lies and rumors about him and now myself, what I want to know is what he should do, I’ve advised going to court for custody but he’s worried that if it falls through he will lose the kids — any advice welcome.
I think the very first step would be a lawyer tbh,see where you stand and file for DNA on both kids then take it from there.
Sounds like he’s already lost them, court would be to get them back!!
hes already lost the kids if she is not letting them see him. I suppose it cannot get any worse. If those are both his biological children and he wants to be a part of their lives, go to court!
File cusrody and ask for dnt testing
He’s already lost them if she’s not letting him see them so he doesn’t have that excuse to fall on.
He needs to get his ass in gear and file BEFORE she does! Keep texts and everything else you can. Get a lawyer and document every single time he tries to see them and she refuses. Keep ALL receipts of anything you buy for the kids and take pictures of everything you buy. Even if you can’t give it to them because of her (this is only “better” because it proves she’s keeping things from your kids just to spite you). The more time he lets go by doing nothing the less likely he is to get anything. File for temporary custody and for a DNA test to establish paternity if he’s not on the birth certificate.
He needs to file for some sort of visitation, parental rights paperwork. He also should most likely be dna tested for both children to be sure. Child support will get costly and he needs to know if they are his to support legally. Always safer to have court paperwork.
Honey he’s the boyfriend. Let him handle this. If he asks for your help then step in.
make sure he has proof. Document everything with dates and times. Get a lawyer and go to court. Good luck !
Oh please… You sound naive… It’s something missing from this story… Aint no man going to stay around to get his ass beat and have another child with her…
Lawyer asap, keep any and all texts or evidence against her. Voice mails as well.
Not being mean, I think something is missing from the story honestly but if he wanted his kids bad enough he wouldn’t be questioning things…he would be at the court house filing papers and requesting DNA tests be done and getting rights. If she’s that abusive and spreading rumors document things date and times and get a lawyer.
get a notebook and document every call, text, hi and bye. every time that he asks for visitation and she denies. ask for dna tests on both children and find you a good lawyer.
This is 100% his problem… I understand you wanting to support him, but he needs to take care of this himself. Take care of yourself
He should consult a lawyer and he needs to take her to court for custody.
I’d go to court r contact welfare system children’s advocates m have visitation then go from their !!
Lawyer, request dna test. The lawyer will represent for custody.
Let’s face it, money talks. If a man can get a good lawyer, then he has a great chance of getting custody or partial custody. I’ve seen plenty of men get it all because they had a good lawyer & the ex didn’t
DNA test, proof of punctured lung and any other evidence. Set up child custody and visitations and be ready to fight in court for awhile