My boyfriend will not get a job and we have a newborn: Please help

I have a newly two-month-old, and my child’s father will not get a job. He has been unemployed going on two months and doesn’t help me with our baby at all, and when he does, he complains and belittles me. We were living with my parents (he was kicked out because he was lazy.never went to work, never helped around the house or offered when he lived there for free, then after I had our daughter he didn’t help me them either.) I ended up moving with him because love is blind then he made me cut contact with my family and friends completely. It’s like the older my daughter gets, the worse it all gets. I feel very torn because I love him genuinely, but I don’t feel like I’m having my daughter’s best interest in mind. Advice?

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Go back home please. If you can:)

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Get out now! That is not a good environment for you or your baby.

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Put your kid before your wants. That is a grown man child not a man at all. He sounds like a mooch dont be blind girl.

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This sounds like my sons father. That was 11 yrs ago.

In 11yrs he’s now had 5 other kids with a women. Has never held a job for longer then 2 months and started using hard drugs.

I got out by the time my son was 4 months old because I realized there was nothing there for us he was not and will never be a father. I’m sorry you’re going threw that.

Bye Felicia, kick him to the curb. Good Luck Momma❤

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I would take my daughter and go back to your parents get in your feet he is lazy and clearly doesn’t love y’all enough to get off his lazy ass y’all deserve better leave and don’t look back

Leave now. Not love if he’s treating you poorly. But most of all, leave for the baby. The baby didn’t choose this.

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Put your child first, not your deadbeat bf

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Go back to your parents and get on your feet. Don’t let him drag you down when you have resources and people that love you

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Go back to your parents! If he doesn’t show you he’s going to work for your family there is no need for you to be there! Loves not blind you clearly you see what’s happening.

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Time to go home. He isnt ready to be a partner nor parent. Your child deserves more. You deserve more. Go Home

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I may not be a mother, but I can tell you from the point of view as someone who was abused, please remove yourself from this environment. You don’t want your daughter to think this is how men should treat her. You know what’s best for her. I hope you make the best decision!

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Leave… Pack up and go back home.

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He didnt make you cut ties…you cut them for him

LEAVE THE DEAD BEAT!!!

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So what’s the dilemma? Stay with a lazy, no good bum that controls you & will give your daughter issues down the road or leave & have a fresh start for you & your child? This is a no brainer. The longer you stay, the more damage you do.

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Parents will have your back no matter what! Go back with your parents! & go talk to the welfare if you can get foodstamps & cashaid

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He doesn’t love you like you think he does if he makes u cut contact with family. That’s controlling and he’s lazy. Not a good combo and it probably won’t change

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Go back home!!! No one should stop contact from your parents. Sounds like he needs to grow up!! RUN back home.

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Leave. This isn’t a healthy relationship for you or your daughter. It will only worse.

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