My boyfriends ex-wife passed: What should I do?

My boyfriend’s ex-wife and mother of two of his kids just passed away. They were married for 10 years a long, long time ago and have two kids in their 20’s (1 of them I absolutely adore and the others I haven’t talked to in a year, we don’t have a good relationship) We have a 7 year old and we’ve been together for over 11 years. I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend seems very upset, and it’s understandable, but his family keeps calling him to offer their condolences as if they were still married. (She remarried and had two more kids with her new husband) I’m not jealous; I just don’t know what to do. She was my son’s brothers’ mother, but I saw her maybe a handful of times. Aside from offering my condolences to him and their kids, what else can I do?

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Just be supportive. Ask him if he needs anything

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Just be there to support him and his children

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Just understand that she was a massive part of his life and have him.beautifil kids. Try not to take it negatively, I get it could be hard but it’s how it is. Just love him and be there :heart:

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Tell him you understand she was a big part of his life and if he needs to talk, you are there

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Just be there, like you are already doing. Ask what he needs. Sounds like you are already doing the right thing. Maybe reach out to the child you don’t speak to… could be a good time to heal that relationship

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Just be Loving And Understanding

Be supportive & understanding of their grief as well as his.

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Be supportive of the children and him. Ask if they need anything and just be there emotionally

Remember to not make it about yourself and get your feelings caught up.he lost somebody who was dear to him.they were all still family because these children.just keep a clear mind and be there for your family. I know our thoughts and emotions can easily become troubling but stay strong so you can provide support in their grieving

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Support him. He had a whole other life with her and its understandable that he’s upset. I would be! Just tell him you’re here for him and tell him you won’t be upset if he wants to go to the funeral.

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Just be there for support.

Just be there for him. Regardless, she was a part of his life and was an important part of his other children’s lives. It’s going to be hard for him

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Yeah you have to understand that he was with her for a long time even though they split up they still have children together. They are a part of her, of course people are going to offer their condolences to him his children have lost their mother. Just be there for him and support him x

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Honestly the only thing you can do is be there for him and the kids.

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Just be there for him. She was a huge part of his life and now she’s gone. He isn’t only hurting for himself,but their babies too. Just let him know that you love him and are there for him.

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Be there for him. They are offering condolences because they were married and share children. They are not being disrespectful or anything if that sort.
The best thing you can do right now is offer your husband your support while he grieves.
Keep in mind that this is not about you. I’m sure it’s a bit uncomfortable but death is never an easy issue.

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Let them grieve. Tell them it’s okay to be sad and that you love and are there for all of them. That’s really all you can do honey. You have to understand she was a part of his families life as well though so of course they will be calling and checking in. It’ll pass, just give it time

Just be there… love him alittle more until it passes

Just be there hun. Condolences to you and extended family… xxx